5 reasons a stay at home mom should have a Home business.

5 reasons why a stay at home mom should have a home business
5 reasons you should have a home business as a stay at home mom

To be a stay at home mom is one of the greatest sacrifices you can make as a mother for yourself and your family. It’s a great gift of self and time which you invest in your family in other to nurture your kids and see them grow into the wonderful people you envision for them.

Being available and attentive to their needs and also taking care of your own needs, however, can be a tough act to balance out. When you choose to stay home and raise your kids, you give up that opportunity to follow your career path. Perhaps you were working in a financial institution and you dreamed of climbing the career ladder and getting to become a bank executive. But it never came to be because you chose to get off the ramp and stay home to raise your children.

Depending on how you choose to manage it, this decision can make a life-changing impact on your personal life both for good or for bad. That is why I am writing this piece why every stay at home mom must have a home business. This is because a Home business will help ameliorate the feeling of not having a way to express your self professionally. It can also be the key to unlocking your creative side which may lead to a full-time business, something you will never have imagined you could do should you have been pursuing your original career. To help you get along

 Here are 5 reasons why a Stay at home mom must have a home business

You will get a creative outlet for your skills:

For some people, you may have started your stay at home mom journey mid-career, meaning that you have had the opportunity to work in a corporate establishment before and you had to stop because you started having babies and you found out you could not cope with having your kids in a daycare or maybe you are feeling your children need you now.

This means you already have skills which you have acquired and would like to use. A home business provides you with a creative outlet to make use of such skills while still staying home to raise your children.For instance, no matter what kind of skill you have now, you can write about it via blogging. This will create an avenue for you to share your experiences and help those who may be on the same skill level as you are or looking to have your skills set. To learn how to start a blog, read my post on how to start a blog when you are not techy.

 

You will earn money  as a stay at home mom and contribute financially to your household:

When you get used to living on two incomes, it’s usually a struggle to live on one even if that one income is enough to cater for all your needs. There is an emotional comfort that earning your own money in life gives to you. It can never be replaced with what you get from your spouse. While choosing to stay home for the kids may have been a joint decision from the both of you, it doesn’t still replace the fact that sometimes you feel like you are contributing nothing finance wise to your household. A home business can be a way to help you fulfill that need.

You are setting an example for your Girlchild

I wasn’t so concerned about posterity when I had my first child which was a boy because I felt, well he had his dad to look up to, I am not a man so I do not have any manly attributes to pass on to him.

This all changed when I had my daughter, suddenly I was flustered because I now realized I now had one of my type who will likely look up to me and try to imitate me. I began to think about who I was and what kind of mom I will like my daughter to see me as.

Believe me, this thoughts and feelings contributed to my starting this Blog. I wanted more than just running my training outfit or working in a firm, I wanted to be able to own multiple streams of income, own multiple businesses and above all still be available for my kids as they grow up.Don’t underestimate the power of emotions that having a kid bring to your life.

So if you are a stay at home mom now, who may be wondering where do I begin from, I am dissatisfied with my life the way it is, my finances are stretched, my energy is sapped and I do not know how to start, begin by thinking of what your kids will think of you when they grow up. For ideas on types of home business, you can start, read my post on 10 trending home business ideas for the year 2018.

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You will be less depressed and unhappy

Statistics from a Gallup poll conducted indicate that stay at home moms are more likely to express negative emotions such as worry, anger, depression, and anxiety as compared to moms who work.

Ever met any of your colleagues from high school or even college mates who are doing extremely well on their jobs, and you felt like life just left you behind because you chose to be a stay at home mom.  I know how it feels like, that’s why I wrote 6 things a stay at home mom struggles with. In that post, I chronicled the feelings of a stay at home mom.

I also provided solutions to those feelings, I will like you to take time to read it. Starting a home business can help you be less depressed and unhappy.  I am not saying this is the only reason you may be unhappy right now but no matter what it is you are going through having that time in which you run your own business can be therapeutic and help fulfill a need that may have been worse if you are not.

You are preparing for the empty nest syndrome

No matter how long it takes, raising kids will not be forever, there will come a time when your kids have all grown up and flown the coop as the saying goes. This is usually a scary time for women if you have devoted your full time to care for them.

I know some will say I can always go back to the workforce, the problem is that the workforce may not be that easy to get back to because of change in times and competition from younger people. I belong to a community of job seekers where they are continuously complaining about not getting the jobs they want because of age.

While it may not be expressly stated because it’s against the law, Its often a reason why we have a lot of old people who want a job but can’t get one. A home business will provide you the opportunity to keep doing what you love and keeps you going when everyone has left home. You might even find that you now have more time to devote to making it a big-time business if it has not grown into one. I believe you can say it’s your own job security for a lifetime.

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Life Needs a Backup Plan:

Here is one reason that you cannot pass up even if you did the other reasons I have listed above. That is the fact that  Life happens, you may lose your Hubby, or he may lose his ability to earn perhaps via accident or lay off. You may also get divorced and find yourself without a job and kids to look after. That is why a Home business is never an alternative or a choice but an obligation you owe yourself and family to ensure you live a life that is worth it.

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5 tips on how to kick chaos and organize your week as a home business owner

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How to Kick Out Chaos and organize your week as a Home business owner

So you started that Home business and now what? all hell is about to break loose, how are you supposed to take care of your kids, do your family duties, be nice and look good for your hubby while still running a home business or perhaps working from home.

You probably lack organization skills and you have never thought about how to organize your week talk more of having to organize your home office to fit into your daily home activities.

You are beginning to think you just got into deep water without knowing how you got there, the baby is crying and hanging onto you for dear life, he wants to breastfeed, Moooom I am hungry, or  I want to fix my broken toy and  then the proverbial we have to do my homework ( I am actually thinking no child loves to say that, but  some do, my son likes his homework time even though I suspect its because he gets to correct my pronunciation or tell me why the workbook is wrong lol)

Whichever condition your life is in right now, there is a way out.Don’t lose it just yet or give up and go back to your before business life, there is what to do and I will show you what to do, the how and what to use. Follow me, I will start by laying out a month’s plan which you can then break down into weeks then into days.

To organize your week as a home business owner, here is what you have to do.

1 Define your priorities

In one new month, there is only so much that you can achieve, especially if you just started a new home business and you are trying hard to build it. Running all over the place and splitting hairs everywhere will not move you forward, you have to decide what is your priority for that month as a business and then face it, tackle it and get it done. For you to do this, you will need to focus on knowing what you need for now.

Since you work at home, you may know have noticed that you are consistently moving from your work to your home activities so you can’t just prioritize your business activities without including your home activities it will not work.

To start off, you will need to answer an important question yourself, and that is what is the one thing that you want to achieve this month as a family and as a business?

Write it down on a Post-it note and stick it on your table in front of you and your planning has just begun. You can name it your Big hairy audacious goal (BHAG) like Jim Collins in the book  Built to last

2 Set your Goals

I already mentioned setting up your goals in the above tip, that is your overarching goals for the month, I don’t want to even use the word year here because it may send some people running for cover, so lets stick to planning for one month and then  one week and perhaps you can replicate it each week and then a month and finally make up your year.

I know this looks like its in the reverse order, but I am writing from the perspective of one who may not be a planning addict but realizes that you need it now that you have a business. One day or one week at a time helps, that way you ease in nice and good without feeling overwhelmed.

Now set your business goal for the month and also your family goal for the month.For example:

-Family Goal

– I will study a chapter of the Bible with my family and ensure we internalize the teachings by writing out what we learned and what needs to be implemented.

Business Goal

– Focus on growing my Instagram following this month.

Whatever you need to do, you just write it down and then you move on to the next stage.

 

3 Break down your Goals into Tasks that need to be accomplished

At this stage you are feeding the pipeline of achieving a more organized family and business, so you get to break down your goals into tasks that are doable within the time slots you will apportion to them.For example

Family Goal Task

-Read verse 1- 3 on Monday

-Read verse 4-5 on Tuesday etc

-You now choose the time slot in which you will start and complete the Bible study for that week.

-Business Goal Tasks

-Research Instagram hashtags to use

-Create content for your Instagram followers

-Search for competitors or collaborators that you will follow

-Join Instagram pods to help improve engagement and following.

Each task must be completed within the time slots assigned, of course, you have to make room for interruptions or disruptions that may make it difficult for you to finish your tasks.

Amongst the tasks you will list are those that will be recurring every week, for example, your kid’s swimming lessons will hold every Tuesday.

For example, my first son takes swimming lessons every Tuesday so I make sure that his swimming gear is in a place where I can easily pick it up and bag it on our way out in the morning.

If you are a mom whose kids are not of school age yet, you can outline activities that you will get them to do at specific times and thus create a routine.

Tips for planning to organize your week

To help you get started here are examples of the list of activities you are likely to plan for in your family.

List of your Family activity

-Childcare

-Meal planning & Prepping

-Cleaning

-School work

-Family time

-Hubby time

-Personal time

-Healthcare for family

-Home maintenance

List of weekly activities for my business:

This is what my list looks like, you can write yours down depending on what you do as a business from home.

-Content planning & creation

-Social Media promotion, marketing, and engagement

-New opportunities research/ product development

-Client meetings/ email response

-Business side overview

After you have done all this, move on to the next step

 

4 Assign activities to time slots for each day and schedule 

Now that you have listed all your activities, you will now have to separate your activities into recurring activities and non-recurring ones

Recurring activities are the ones you do daily, while none recurring activities may be done once a month. For example, house maintenance may be done once a month, or for your business, you may choose to plan all your content ideas for a month so that you can use the weeks for research and creation.

Another non-recurring business activity may be to use a scheduling app like Tailwind to schedule all your posts for pinning to your Pinterest board for the month, that way you cut down your social media marketing time by half and then focus more of your energy on content creation.

If you have not heard of Tailwind before it’s a scheduling tool that helps you automatically schedule your Pins to your chosen Pinterest boards at times that you choose.

Its a very useful tool that has helped me tremendously to cut down time used in pinning to boards manually, whats more it also has a feature called tribes where you can add your content to increase the exposure of your Pins. I have a tribe on tailwind so if you had like to join my tribe, click here

If you want to sign up for a trial of Tailwind, click here, its free for your first 100 pins during your trial period. If you eventually sign up, your first month is free of charge.

Depending on what kind of business that you are running from home, your schedules may differ but what matters is that you are planning your way to be more effective and productive in your business hence you are able to succeed.

Using our initial example, the recurring activity for both family and business can be

-Read verse 1-3 etc every day from 5pm-6pm

-Share content on my Instagram account and engage with my followers from 12 noon- 12.30pm.

Nonrecurring activities example could be

-Write down what was learned at the end of the chapter reading and what we will practice as a family going forward based on what we learned.- Friday

-Schedule all the Content I will use this month on Sunday

The next step will be

-Put the nonrecurring activities first on your calendar, before you enter your recurring activities. This is because your non-recurring activities may often take chunks of time so you want to get that off your table first before you add the recurring activities which you can maneuver around should you lack for time.

-You can use some scheduling tools that I will later mention in this post to help you create your to-do lists for the day, that way you wake up knowing what you intend to achieve for the day.

-Color code your different activities, for example, you can use different colors to indicate which one is a home activity and which one is a business activity this helps you to avoid mix-ups. For example, All home activities are in green, while business activities are yellow.

5 Assign Time Blocks for Activities

The next thing to do is to assign time blocks for your activities, for example, you can assign time blocks that are for when you get to spend time with your kids or time blocks that are for writing or product development.

This time blocks are then broken down into different time slots for different activities. Using our initial example.

-Time for bible study – 5pm – 6 pm

-Preparation and setting- 10 mins

-Word reading – 10 mins

-Discussion -20 mins

-Questions and Answers- 10 mins

-Wrap up- 10 mins

Tools you may need to organize your week as a Home business owner.

Planners and Binders :

This may include Blogging binders, Home cleaning binder, Medical binders and Blog planners.

One of the best materials I have seen when it comes to planning for your blog is the  Honest Bloggers Binder Bundle by Sarah Titus, it is made up of one Blogging binder 4 hot selling ebooks on vital questions a Blogger may want to know, she also has a variety of other vital planners that will help you organize your week more effectively.

A blogging binder that features
Honest Blogging Binder by Sarah Titus

 

The good thing about getting these binders now is that you get a free Christmas binder for if you sign up to her mailing list and while there you also get 60% off the Honest Blogger Binder. I am not sure how long this will last but you will be getting a good deal if you snag it now.

Binders and Planners by Sarah titus
Binders and Planners By Sarah Titus

You can get them here

Other tools which are digital in nature are

Cozi.com

Color note notepad

Evernote

24me

Any.do

Calendar 5

Google calendar

Finally ensure that you involve your family in planning out your monthly activities to avoid constant disruptions, one of the apps above, Cozi Family organizer to be specific has the ability to collaborate with family members in such a way that is so useful.

For instance, if you are going for grocery shopping and your Hubby will like you to get something that’s not in the list, he can add it to your schedule for that day and you are notified of this new addition.

There are many ways you can stay organized to ensure that you achieve your dreams as home business owner.

If you are not used to planning and organizing, you will find this piece a bit overwhelming, the most important thing is to start off and stick to your routine, don’t forget to be flexible as nothing is rigid, sometimes you may have to move things around to see what works.

A word for anyone that has a baby that is still young in age perhaps some few months, know that his or her nap time is the best time you have to do uninterrupted work.

Starting the sleep training of your baby on time may be the key that unlocks your productivity.

One of the best times I get to work uninterrupted is at night, because all my kids are in bed by then, I can then do my writing because I love to concentrate while writing, I hate interruptions as it often disrupts my flow.

For you It may be early mornings, whatever time it is, ensure its something you are comfortable with, there will be no need setting up schedules that you keep missing and ends up increasing your stress levels.

Now over to you, what ways can you organize your week as a home business owner? Drop your comments below

 

 

 

 

 

Every mom’s Holiday Gift Guide 2017

 

Gift Guide for 2017
Holiday Gift Guide for moms

Hei all,

Can’t believe it but the Holidays are almost walking into us, it’s usually a time to celebrate and be merry. Being thankful is a requirement for this season, wondering what I am thankful for, read my post on 5 things I am thankful for in this year. Then you will understand where I am coming from.

Well this is the home business owner Blog and as Business owners, though we hustle all through the months, setting goals trying so much to beat them, some we trash some we don’t but in all, we are thankful that we have a life so we can try again.

Having said that, I am creating a Holiday Gift guide because the season is here, we all love to give gifts and share with loved ones, so I created this post to enable you to get some great unique gift items both for your self and friends and even kids too. No one is left out of my Holiday gift guide suggestions.

The way I will structure this Holiday Gift guide post, it will cover the closest people in your life and even others who are not so close. My post will cover gift items for yourself, baby, kids, Hubby or significant other, friends, colleagues.

To shop from this link just click on the picture it will take you to the page for the items.

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Gift For yourself

Yeah Mama, you should start with picking out a gift for yourself after all that hustling and taking care of others during the year, you deserve a gift to make you feel good, so take a look to these ideas for the perfect Holiday Gift Idea for the oncoming Holiday season.

Red Bag
Long Chain CrossBody Minibag
Boots from Nordstrom
925 silver Earrrings
Fashion Earrings
Poncho warm winter wear
Bohemian Style Poncho
Women’s Leather Messenger bag
Gifts for yourself
Christine Louboutin Lipstick

Gift for your Spouse

It’s a time to appreciate your significant other, so why not show some love using some of these lovely and thoughtful gift ideas.

Gifts for Him ( Nordstrom shopping)
Herschel supply Co Heritage Back pack
HerschelSupply Co Heritage Backpack
Fitbitt heart rate Tracker
Fit Bit Wireless heart Rate Tracker
Molton Brown carry on Haircare set for Men

Gift Ideas for Teens.

We know this is the age for picky specific gifts and perhaps expensive gifts too because they are at that age of being quite impressionable and trying to fit into the latest fab that is on the move, but we can be creative in helping them make a choice that is reasonable and within budget too. Take a look at these Gift ideas for your teenage kids

Burlington Coat Factory
Apple Ipad
Apple Ipad
Burlington Coat Factory
Nordstrom Shopping

Gift items for Babies, toddlers, and Children

Depending on at what age they are, you can always find something that is unique not so pricey but at the same time interesting for them. Because I believe in helping kids cultivate their reading culture I will always include a book in this section so take a look at some ideas from this section

Kids Books

. If you did not find the type of Toys you want you may want to read my post on 10  best baby toys to keep your kids busy as a work at home mom.

codeapillar
Chicco Go Go Friends Pop a LadyBird
Coding Robot

Gift ideas for your Family

This includes your mum, dad and sisters, and cousins, those that make celebrating the different holidays well worth it. We get to meet with them and catch up on how the year had been.

Blue Apron Subscription
Condiment Bowls
Condiment Bowls
Nordstrom Shopping
Nordstrom shopping
Plaid Mens Casusl Shawl
Quality casual Men’s Shawl
YSL Men’s Cologne
Alexandani Charm Bracelets
AlexandAni Birth month Charm Bracelet
American styled handbag
American Style Tote

Take  a look at these gift ideas to see what may suit you

 

Gift for a Friend or Colleague

There are colleagues that we have had to work along with both in the office or out of it and friends too, so why not get them in on the gifting train. Take a pick.

Necklace
Bohemian Style Necklace
Khiels from Nordstrom
Stemless Fabricated Wineglass
Gifts for Friends Alex and Ani
Pure leather bag
Genuine Leather Handbag
Infinity necklace

Do you have any other gift guide ideas for the oncoming Holiday season, leave a comment below?

Here is wishing a great Celebration as you shop.

 

10 best baby toys to keep your baby busy as a WAHM(Ages 6m+)

 

10 Best baby Toys to keep your baby busy
10 Best Baby Toys to Keep your Baby Busy as a Work at Home Mom

Working at home as a mom can be quite challenging especially if you have kids between the ages of 0-4 years of age. This is because they are at the stage where they require your daily input to keep them busy. It becomes much more challenging when you have to take care of them, do all your house chores and still get to do your home business. It is little wonder then that we find all kinds of write ups on how to schedule your time so that you get meaningful work done while you work from home or run your home business as the case may be.

Baby Playsets from Burlington

I know it can be challenging to be able to keep your little ones at home and still make a living, however, it’s not impossible, you just need to figure out how to make the best use of your time.

I decided to write this post because I know there are work at home moms who struggle with creating the needed time to give to their business just like me.I figured that we can make use of toys to buy some needed time in other to carry out one task or the other hence my post on the 10 best baby toys to keep your baby busy as a work at home mom.

Amongst my list are things which you may not practically call a Toy but a baby gear, however, the way I see it, as long as it helps you keep your baby busy while you snatch that little one hour or ten minutes here and there, it’s well worth it. This list is not all encompassing but with this ideas, you can know how to get your baby occupied while you get some work done.

My favorite for this list is the Push and Pull Toys, these are toys that encourage tactile movements in babies, cognitive ability, and sensory abilities. Once your baby is able to move around a bit, you will find that anything they can push or pull will be of interest to them, this is because it helps them to explore their surroundings and develops their sense of touch.

According to a publication in US National Library of Medicine, National institute of Health, Children who are not exposed to sensory stimulation often witness a delay in their cognitive abilities. So having established this fact, here are some toys that will help you get your baby making those tactile movements while you work.

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Chicco Go Go Pop a Ladybird.

Chicco Go Go Friends Pop a LadyBird

This friendly ladybug Toy features motion, ability to travel when it is pressed on the back, it also has colourful light up’s with music and sounds as it moves. Encourages movement for babies of about 6m+

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Fisher Price- Toddlerz ChatterTelephone

Fisher Price Toddler Chatter Telephone

This chatter telephone is my number 2 with its friendly eyes, it begins chattering once pulled. It keeps your baby busy at least for while with the fun chattering sounds it makes. Enhances motion and audio skills.

 

 

 

 

Chicco Musical walking turtles ;

Chicco Musical Walking Turtle
Chicco Musical walking Turtles

This Toy is a perfect darling for your babies, it stands as number 3 on my 10 best baby toys list. The turtle once pressed will vibrate with some cheerful musical melody. This soft toy made with machine washable fabric will stimulate, audio, visual and tactile skills in your baby.

I love Chicco products because of its durability and fun colors. I still have a push bicycle my first son got as a gift when he was born. 4 years down the line, it’s still useable even though its back wheels are gone. Their products are easily cleaned without much stress.

 

Fat Brain Toys Wimzle

Wimzel Toy
Fat Brain Wimzel Toy

A fidget like a toy for babies within the ages of 6m+, it encourages sensory learning, hand eye coordination, motor skills and exploration. Its textured feel makes for a sensory stimulation for infants.

 

 

 

 

Fisher Price Luv U zoo Jumperoo

Jumperoo
Fisher Price Jumperoo

Who doesn’t love a good Jumperoo to keep your baby excited and busy, find such fun in this baby gear, a jumperoo without a door way attachment. Suitable for babies that cannot walk or crawl out of it. No need for door ways, just attach baby and he or she is in a world of her own with lots of activity attachment on the go.

 

 

SkipHop Stacker owl

Stacker play toys
Skiphop Stacker owl

This toy features 5 unique play piece with ears that are designed as a teething companion for the teething baby. A stacker owl with a steady base for your baby to engage in a fun activity while you work.

 

 

 

Chicco Spring Roller;

Tactile movement toy
Chicco Spring Roller

Babies Like to keep busy, especially with the beginning of a crawl, they love to go after objects that roll, get on with it in your playtime with baby using this Chicco spring roller, it is motion activated with melody and lights when it is rolling. It encourages tactile movement in babies.

 

 

 

Fisher- Price Kick and Play Piano Gym

Piano Play Mat
Fisher Price Kick and Play Piano

This Piano Gym with all sorts of baby play toys attachment is good for babies to explore with and play with. A kick on the piano plays some music for the baby. Its foldable and can be taken along when going out. It features a hippo teether, elephant clackers, and roller ball frog. It helps to develop gross motor skills, curiosity and discovery skills for baby. Best for baby from 0-12 months.

 

Fisher Price- Infant- Toddler Rocker:

Infant to Toddler Rocker
Infant to Toddler Rocker

 

What can we do without the good ole rocker, to keep baby busy while you work. This rocker is a good investment as it can carry babies that weigh up to 40lbs. It features multiple uses including playing, feeding, soothing and overhead entertainment. It has a sleek and modern design and can be used by baby well into their toddler years. The overhead handle bar is detachable and can be removed when it’s no longer important.

 

Fisher Price Brillant Basics- Stack and Roll Cups:

Stacker toys
Stacker Cups

 

This beautiful stacker cups will get your little one busy as heck as they roll or stack the cups. They are quite good and keep them busy. My daughter got this as a birthday gift pack and couldn’t get enough of it. In fact, it also found use in sand play as cups, pots whatever she could find to make of it. I love its multiple functionalities.

 

Do you have any more ideas on best baby toys you can use to keep a  baby busy as a work at home mom? Leave a comment below.

Want more from thehomebusinessowner Blog, read my post on how to get

your Family on board your Home business like a Pro.

Bikes for Kids from Burlington

Interested in starting a Home business but you don’t know how to make that decision, you can read my post on How to Choose the right work at home business for you

 

Finally, if you are a stay at home mom struggling with issues and you think you are alone, you don’t have to feel so mama, I got your back, read my post on 6 things a Stay at home mom struggles with. You will resonate with that post and also gain insights on how to solve such issues.

Nordstrom clothing
Baby Girls Clothing from Nordstrom

I can’t end my piece without sending my heartfelt prayers to our audience in Houston Texas who are experiencing a Flood due to Hurricane Harvey. Our thoughts and prayers are with you, stay safe. It is well with you, the Lord will uphold you and bring you out strong. If you have lost anything at all, it is because of him that you haven’t lost your life.

We Love and are Praying for you.

6 things a Stay at home mom struggles with

The struggles of a stay at home mom
6 things a stay at home mom struggles with

The word stay at home mom evokes a lot of different pictures in peoples mind, for some, it’s a word used to describe women who don’t like to work but prefer to sit at home and watch movies all day in the name of looking after their kids. I really wish it were so but I do know now it’s not so.

Stay at home mom is a woman who wears all the hats there is in the home plus some more without having the attendant payment to show for it.
When a woman chooses to be a stay at home mom, it’s often a huge sacrifice she has to make in other to see that her home is well run or in other to see that her kids have the kind of training and nurturing that she desires.

Some women have been known to leave lucrative careers to become stay at home moms because the effect of leaving their lovely ones in the hands of other people to care for became too much to bear and therefore they chose that off the career ramp option to care for the most important people in their lives.

For some people it may make sense for others, it may not because after all is said and done, it’s the investment you put in your family that matters most.

Children don’t care if they are in the most expensive house or car or wear the best clothes, as long as their parents were there for them when they needed them most.So today I am going to share with you the 6 things that stay at home mom struggles with because I have been there too and I know what it feels like

.SABON

Feelings of Inadequacy:

If you are a first-time mom who just chose to stay at home, this may resonate well with you, that feeling of do I know what I just did? I mean I just left my well-paying job to stay home to take care of my baby. Sometimes you may even feel like even the mom job you are not doing so well at it. The truth may also be that at least for your paid job you were well trained but to become a mom, you had no prior training and yet you are expected to be perfect at it.

You feel inadequate because you are trying to cope with having to leave a career that once defined what you could bring to the table at home and then you also have to cope with the fact that your new job does not have any job description attached to it. There is no end to where your job stops, you are the nanny, caregiver, nurse, housecleaner,  and any other thing that comes in between including cook, driver, encourager and the list goes on.

While you struggle with coping with all these issues, guess where your report card is shown, at places where you get some judgmental looks or comments for not getting your act together as a mom. From those who think that by giving your child the bottle, you are just being lazy, “every hard working mom should be able to breastfeed exclusively for the first 6 months of a babies life”, does this sound like a familiar jab?, well for me I tried it but it didn’t work, in fact I got sick before it dawned on me that everyone has to find what works for one in this journey of mommyhood.My first son loved the bottle, my daughter liked breastfeeding a lot, in fact, she refused the bottle and went straight to eating solids.

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So what do you do with all these struggles that you are facing?.I would like you to know, that the first time you start as a new stay at home mom, it will seem strange to you just like when you resume your post on a new job, but with time, you will find your rhythm.From then you can then begin to try out new things and see what works and what doesn’t work, you can then decide to throw out what doesn’t work for you and choose what you are comfortable with. And who says that as you go along you won’t acquire the experience which you can package and sell out to new moms like you for a fee. For how to do that please read my post on how to turn your life experience into a money printing online business

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Overworked and Underappreciated:

The interesting thing about being a stay at home mom is that you don’t have a specific work time, from the time your feet hit the floor in the morning time, assuming you had all night sleep which is often a mirage when your kids are between ages of 0-4 years.

Your work is almost like a round the clock work from fixing breakfast, lunch, and dinner to cleaning the home, running errands and shopping. You are practically at work even when others are having a break, no wonder you sometimes feel overwhelmed and overworked.

You may also feel underappreciated when you are not being praised for the work you do at home. Some husbands have been known to come home and say, “ honey what were you doing all day that my dinner is not yet ready”?.

No one understands the many times you have to calm a crying baby or break up siblings quarrels or even act as a judge and jury. It can make you feel like your energy is being sucked out daily, my little advice about this is to find that time to rest during the day, if it means putting the kids to nap in the afternoon and taking your own nap too to get your energy back please do so.
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Of course, it may mean that some things won’t get done perhaps a scattered house or unfolded laundry, but like  I always say, a grumpy mama is no good to anyone. So always find the time to tune off during the day and just relax. It may not necessarily be sleep, sometimes I find that just sitting and watching cartoons with my little ones helps me to relax. You can also choose to quit trying to have everything in the perfect place in other to feel alright.

Now if you are a hubby reading this, know that appreciation goes a long way to make a stay at home mom’s day better. A night off duty will be nice, a back rub here and a foot massage there will make a world of difference.

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The baby company only:

When you are a SAHM with a baby at home, the only company you will have is that of a kid, while that is lovely I mean who hates the company of her babies, but sometimes you want to have adult conversations. Where you to be working outside your home, you will often meet new people or at least converse with people like yourself but for a stay at home mom, it’s often baby talk all day long until hubby comes home. This might look good some days at least you have some time to think things through and strategize for any project you have on hand without any distractions. Unfortunately, this may not be the case always because the same distractions can come from children too.

So what does a stay at home do in this case, I say in any case be involved in online forums where you can discuss issues that bother you or vent on what you are going through. When time permits, pick up the phone and call a close friend or family member with whom you can spend time discussing with or exchanging ideas with, this will make you feel a lot better. If you are working from home as a blogger or doing any form of online business, belonging to an online group of people of the same challenges as you can help you gain a better perspective of issues you may be dealing with at that particular time.,

Finances:

This aspect of the struggles of a stay at home mom is very controversial, for some, it’s the constant struggle to stretch the money available to cover all the household bills, for some it may be that you didn’t even have enough to last you throughout the month. For some, It may be that you just have just enough but not excess to take care of some niceties that you are used to when you were working outside the home. While for some people finances may not be the problem but just the feeling that you are not earning anything at all and so you are a one income household.

Whichever divide you fall into know that there is a way out of it, working has been redefined so much right now that you can earn your income even while staying at home, if finance is a major issue for you, then consider ways of working from home to earn extra income.

Here are a few options to earn extra income from home. You can start a home business, offer your services as a freelancer from your home by signing up on platforms such as Fiverr, upwork or you can choose to work for other people from home which may entail applying for online jobs that you can do. Which ever way, you choose to do it, there is a way out you don’t have to feel like your finances took a nose dive and you can’t change it.
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Sometimes you may discover that starting that home business was what you really needed to take your family off the 9- 5 rat race. If starting a home business is your thing, then consider reading my post on how to choose the right home business for you.

Feeling Left Out:

Have you ever gone for an outing where you bumped into an old school colleague or work mate and you started discussing especially pertaining to your field of study or work and you felt left out because a lot has changed without you being aware? This happens particularly when you are a new mom, for the first one year and especially the first 6 months its like you are underwater, your life is practically buried within fulfilling your babies needs, first-time moms can resonate with this better. If you carry on discussing you may feel like you don’t seem to know the trends that are even going on now, thanks to your new job, stay at home mom Lol, but seriously those feelings of being left out if left unchecked can begin to make you resent your decision.

But before you go feeling sorry for yourself or getting angry, understand that you need to remind yourself the reasons why you made your choice in the first place, and make peace with the fact that you may not know a lot of things that are currently going on in your former field of work due to your new position but you can begin to make amends by building and connecting with people who are on the same journey as you are and understand the challenges.

Keeping up with colleagues from your former field of influence may not be useful to you if you are not planning to continue in that line of career. Realize that you have changed career and focus on what you must do in the now to get you quickly ramped up on the new journey you are on.

It may mean taking courses to get you ready if you want to start a home business or even starting out without training at all that way you learn the hard knocks your own way.

Either way, you are gathering knowledge that will aid your journey as a stay at home mom who wants to work from home. If you have been brainstorming ideas about different types of home businesses you may need to read my post on 5 posts that teach you how to make money online.

The truth is that being a stay at home mom doesn’t mean that you can’t utilize your skills in other ways to earn money. With the advent of blogging these days, all forms of knowledge are now monetizable.

For example, who knew that you could sell your knowledge on how to organize your home, take care of a newborn, keep yourself fit e.tc. In fact, information that used to just sit with you doing nothing has become sources of income.The online media has made it possible to be able to share such information’s now and make good money from it.

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Do you consider Blogging as one of the avenues to sell your knowledge online, then hop on over to my post on how to start a blog when you are not a techie and learn how to start a blog in as little as 2 hours.

Need for time out

As a stay at home mom, there are times you just feel like you really want a leave, I mean people who work 9-5 have that opportunity of taking a leave to just go home and relax and recharge before going back to work. But for the stay at home mom, she doesn’t get to get that time off.

There are no leave days, where are you leaving to? , your home is supposed to be your leave escape but now you get to stay in it every day and it doesn’t look like it will make for a leave escape anymore. The good thing about this situation is that you don’t have to apply for your leave in other to take one.  or technically you can apply to your hubby to take a leave from work and stay home so you could take the much-needed leave in other to refresh and recharge.

You can choose to go out that day with friends and just have a girls day out or better still visit a close family member whom you can relax in her house and feel like you are in your own home and on holiday without the attendant stress of having to care for your home.

Maybe you can go for a mini holiday to a nearby tourist attraction and just spend time alone, pampering and recharging yourself. Of course, there will be a time and place for family vacation but this little time out is for you alone, so you can be a better mother to your kids and give your best to them. Thinking of taking that mini vacation then try using Booking.com, they have excellent services for your vacation needs they have budget hotel rooms if that suits you.



Do you know of any struggles that a stay at home mom has to deal with, leave a comment below, it will be appreciated?