What Fathers Day means to this Generation

5 things this generation expects from a Father

We are in a new generation, a generation that has the kind of gadgets that we only dreamed of or never even thought about in our own times. I was born in the eighties, so permit me to say that many things are new to me, each day I discover things that never existed when I was born. Things that were strange to us then have become the norm now. Our generation of Parents are in a quagmire, they are confused as to how to guide this present generation.

When this generation of Kids asks you a question, you have to sometimes take the time to research before you know the right answer to give. This is because things have so changed that you need to be sure you are even giving the relevant answer.  You may be disgraced by your Kid if you are not careful, sometimes the answer they seek is more of an affirmation of what they already think is the answer.  After all we live in a generation of information overload and this information is available on every platform you can think of.

This prompts me to think that this is a generation that needs Fatherhood like never before. Fathers can not afford to let them Father themselves because the knowledge they might get from other sources may not be what will help them mature into responsible adults.

Children in this generation need a strong male presence to teach them what real men should behave like. We are at a time when the real men should stand up and show the way to our upcoming young kids what it means to be a Father before they loose out. So on this Fathers day celebration here are  5 points that speak to me as a mom on what Fatherhood means to this generation. It is what every child desires in a father.

5 Things this generation expects from a Father

Be responsible:

A certain great man once said:  responsibility is the price you pay for greatness. In this generation where responsibility is being abandoned like no other, you owe it to your children to show what it means to be responsible.

To be responsible means to understand what your role is in their life and to fulfill that role. Kids desire to see how to take on responsibility from you as a father, they don’t want you to be only the provider of the resources for the home even though that’s important.They want to learn life lessons from you, they want to learn how to handle the curveballs that Life often throws.

When they are confused as to why they need to work towards their dreams, it is you the Father that they will look to, to show them how following your dreams is the key to unlocking your happiness. When a Father abandons the family, a deep rift is created which cannot be filled by the mom no matter how much she tries.

Not growing up with a father in the home, has its own impact in the life of a child, from Drug to alcohol abuse, to depression and Poverty.Statistics from the National Council for Fathering stated that Children in Female-headed homes are more likely to be poor than those who are headed by married couples families. The rate was 47.5% versus 10.9% according to US Dept of Health and Human services.

 

They Look to you for a sense of direction:

Children look up to their Parents for a sense of what they should be doing. As a father in a home, you are like a captain of that ship. It’s you who determines which direction this ship will sail through in other to reach safe harbor.

An absentee Dad cannot sail the home ship, this calls for not only to be present in the home but to be involved in the life of your family. A family where the dad is actively fulfilling his role as the one who sets the direction and shows what they should be doing per time will produce kids who are more confident to face the world. The kids will find that the routines and boundaries set for them help set their internal values. They will grow up to live by it.

When a home is incomplete, confusion reigns because different values are being infused into the child at the same time and they do not know if its Dads value or moms values that should be imbibed. What often results is the child rebels and chooses to do what his peer groups are doing. This is where Peer group pressure wins over parental control and values. With Tons of information on Social media consistently espousing values that do make for a good upbringing, if the home is not in order, kids may turn to such for advice or seek a sense of direction from the wrong sources.

You will be a King in their Eyes when you treat their Mom like a Queen:

Most Men want to be the King of the Manor, but like most castles with Kings, a Queen also reigns. When you want your kids to look to you as the Royalty you are in the home, then you have got to do right by their mom too.

Most children have an affinity for their moms that are second to none. When you want that respect that comes with being the man of the home, then you must also show respect to your wife. When they see you respect and honor the work she does in raising them, you will win their heart the more.

I never saw someone who treated his woman right that the children did not adore. In fact, it is a known fact that children from abusive homes tend to be abusive too. When you abuse your spouse, you may not know it but you are raising a generation of abusive children. Children will respect a father who honors their mom.

As they grow, it will form a foundation on which they build the type of relationship they have with the opposite sex. When a home is dysfunctional, the children grow up with a lot of psychological issues that stem from how their Dad treated their own mom. Sometimes a man may be dealing with issues in his relationship with his wife which stems from how she saw her own Dad treat her own mom.

Children want their Interest to come first:

One of the first requirement of becoming a parent is the ability to put your kid’s interest first. But we see today that it’s not so, we have a generation o f parents who do not know what it means to be a parent, the Job comes first, the relationship comes first, sometimes even the hobby comes first.

We should put our children’s interest first because it will form the foundation of how they perceive life. When a child feels like he or she does not seem important, they will be willing to go with anyone who is able to make them feel better than they feel at home. Sometimes the Juvenile delinquencies we see are a result of insecure children from homes where the father is too busy closing the next deal to have time for his kids.

Girls especially want the affirmation that comes from their Dads because he is the first man they will ever have a relationship with, her relationship with her Daddy will often define how she views men in life. If that relationship is handled well, we often have a girl that is confident and able to handle a relationship with the opposite sex. She is not afraid to speak up when something is not going on well in her own relationship and can often tell when a relationship is not healthy.

A girl from a home where love is freely given will not be willing to fall into the arms of any man she who expresses Love to her. She can tell when Love is genuine and when it’s not.Sometimes teenage pregnancy is the end result of little girls seeking affirmation from the wrong person.

One thing I have always known is that am yet to see a person who loved spending more time at work than with his family. In making decisions for the home, a Father should remember the kids are the reason he works so hard so he ought to consider their interest.

That big promotion that will take you away from the family so much and deny you the joy of being there when it matters to your child, may not be worth it after all.The good thing about these sacrifices is that they are not forever, children grow up one day and they will always hold dear in their heart what you did to make them happy.

 

After all the Physical is taken care of their Spiritual Lives needs looking after too:

When all is said and done, they only thing that matters is how you were able to pass on your Faith in God if you believe in one to your kids. God said of Abraham, for I know him, he will command his household to follow after me. The next question you should be asking yourself is; will God have such a testimony about you?. A Father is called to be the priest in the home, the one who gathers everyone around the table to pray for the family issues. When a father is open with his children, he can call them to prayer for issues that are happening that needs God intervention. They can stand together to rebuke what the enemy is doing in the Family and set it right.

It is also your duty as a Father to pray your children into their God given destiny. Children face a variety of temptations in this present world, at this time. There is no better time to pray for them to make the right choices in life and live lives that give God glory.

For when your Kids are grown up and are settled in life fulfilling Gods design for their life, you are a much happier Grandparent. It’s a sad thing for your children to be a continuous source of concern to you when they have grown up.

So there is call to action during this Fathers day celebration for Fathers to take the helm and teach their faith to their children, to pass on moral values for the next generation and to ensure that we leave behind children whose heart is for God.

 

A Collection of Father’s day Gift items that will cost less than $100.

 

A collection of Fathers day gift ideas that cost less than a $100

Fathers day celebration is coming soon, well it’s actually on the 18th of June, and that’s my Hubby’s Birthday yip yip yip. While I know that Mothers day gets celebrated way more than fathers day, perhaps because of the significant sacrifices that moms make in other to raise their kids.I do love the fact that Fathers get celebrated too because when you look at it, Dad and Mum are like the two halves of a coin, one shouldn’t have to do without the other even though it doesn’t always happen that way.

We celebrate Fathers because they give the family direction and stability. children tend to always see their Dad as heroes. With a dad functioning in a home, the family is much more rounded and children can grow up to achieve their maximum potential. We were coming home from a Midweek service that we had attended when my son saw the shopping mall sign, he started asking for us to drive into the shopping mall, the following conversation ensued

Son: I want to go to the shopping Mall

Me : Why?

Son: Because I want to buy something

me : Do you have money to buy something?

Son; No, but Daddy has Money

Me: Why do you think daddy has money

Son; Because he is always buying plenty things.

 

We all burst out and started laughing, my husband loves shopping for us, so you can get where he got the idea that even though as a child he has no money, his dad has and we can use Dad’s money.

In his mind, his dad will never disappoint him. It is conversations like this that help you know how kids perceive the role of the Father in the Family.

No matter how hard a mom may try and I know they do try hard, there are certain discussions that will only happen with a Father. That’s why children need male figures in their lives to give them a sense of balance they need in life to go ahead and win.

We owe it to our kids as parents to make the family a place where our kids can find refuge when they are hurting, Parent’s that create a healthy atmosphere for their kids to grow in, help to nurture Children who are confident and contribute immensely to their communities.

A father’s day celebration, therefore, complete the cycle of celebrating parents who consistently work hard to make our Family lives wonderful. So if you are looking to celebrate that wonderful man in your life who has become a Father to your kids or your own Dad. Here is a Fathers day collection of Gift items for a 100 dollar or less.

The name of this collection is ‘Dad U Rock.’

I designed this collection with this inscription because it best explains the importance the male figures in my life has had in my life. My dad Bless his soul has passed on but I am still inspired by what he taught me during his Lifetime. He taught me hard work, tenacity,  independence self-content and charity. Valuable Life lessons that I still live by today.

My Dad though he was unschooled and barely had enough to eat while growing up,  started a business and grew that business to leave a legacy for his children. He will later attend Adult school at his old age, he was a dreamer and never failed to help those in need.

My Husband is a wonderful Dad to our kids, with him I have learned to be focused in the midst of so many distractions, he also taught me tenacity and to dream big dreams. I just met him when his business was just on a sheet of paper. He resigned a well-paying job to pursue a dream of starting a Telecoms service Business. He has succeeded in creating wealth through what he does Co -incidentally, this year’s fathers day is also My Hubby’s birthday. So you see why this Fathers day celebration means so much to me.

My designs, therefore, replicate my heartfelt thought towards my two loved ones, one is here and one has gone. I remember that they are part of the reason why I am who I am today.

So if you want to celebrate this male figures in your life, here are 4 beautifully designed  Fathers day gift items that will help you rock them as your heroes.

  • Dad U Rock Mug:
Dad U Rock Mug

This mug is a beautifully designed mug with the inscription of Dad U rock on both sides of the Mug. The Mug has different options;  the double-toned black and white option,  a frosted Mug option and a travel /commuter mug option for those who like to travel with their Mug. It comes in sizes of 11 oz and  15 oz. This Mug costs $17.95  You get 25% discount when you apply the code ZAZZLEGIFT50

  • Gym Bag

 

 

Dad U Rock Gym bag

This beautifully designed gym bag is a fitting  Fathers day gift item. it’s basically for the dads who like to break a good sweat at the gym. It’s easy to handle and can contain most of your Gym materials. It comes in different colors namely White, Blue, Red, Green and Purple.

This Bag costs $57.90  You get 15% discount with the code ZAZZLEGIFT50.

  • Key Ring

 

 

 

Do you have a dad who likes to keep his keys together, everyone loves to have those beautiful keychains that ensure you have your most important keys altogether. This Dad U rock key chain is exquisite and beautiful. It comes in different shapes: Square and Round. If you want the premium rounded feature or premium square it will cost you more but this featured basic button rounded keychain costs only  $3.70. You get a 15% off with code ZAZZLEGIFT50.

  • Bottle Opener

This beautifully designed bottle opener is classy and fitting for fathers who love to keep their openers handy. It’s made of stainless steel with a length and design that will help you pop those bottles with ease.

The Bottle opener costs    $13.70 You get a 15% discount when you apply the code ZAZZLEGIFT50

All these items can be obtained from my Eleoraconcepts store on Zazzle Platform.

So if you are a stay at home mom who would like to get a Fathers day gift items without breaking the bank, these items will suit you perfectly.Perhaps you did not like any of the items I mentioned above, Please browse around for fitting gifts from my store and see what suits you. if you would like any of these gift items customized for you, kindly hit me a mail or leave a message in my comments section on the store and I will get back to you.

Kindly leave a comment for me if you liked what you saw in my store.

Thanks and Have a Happy fathers day celebration.

Elizabeth