6 things a Stay at home mom struggles with

The struggles of a stay at home mom
6 things a stay at home mom struggles with

The word stay at home mom evokes a lot of different pictures in peoples mind, for some, it’s a word used to describe women who don’t like to work but prefer to sit at home and watch movies all day in the name of looking after their kids. I really wish it were so but I do know now it’s not so.

Stay at home mom is a woman who wears all the hats there is in the home plus some more without having the attendant payment to show for it.
When a woman chooses to be a stay at home mom, it’s often a huge sacrifice she has to make in other to see that her home is well run or in other to see that her kids have the kind of training and nurturing that she desires.

Some women have been known to leave lucrative careers to become stay at home moms because the effect of leaving their lovely ones in the hands of other people to care for became too much to bear and therefore they chose that off the career ramp option to care for the most important people in their lives.

For some people it may make sense for others, it may not because after all is said and done, it’s the investment you put in your family that matters most.

Children don’t care if they are in the most expensive house or car or wear the best clothes, as long as their parents were there for them when they needed them most.So today I am going to share with you the 6 things that stay at home mom struggles with because I have been there too and I know what it feels like

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Feelings of Inadequacy:

If you are a first-time mom who just chose to stay at home, this may resonate well with you, that feeling of do I know what I just did? I mean I just left my well-paying job to stay home to take care of my baby. Sometimes you may even feel like even the mom job you are not doing so well at it. The truth may also be that at least for your paid job you were well trained but to become a mom, you had no prior training and yet you are expected to be perfect at it.

You feel inadequate because you are trying to cope with having to leave a career that once defined what you could bring to the table at home and then you also have to cope with the fact that your new job does not have any job description attached to it. There is no end to where your job stops, you are the nanny, caregiver, nurse, housecleaner,  and any other thing that comes in between including cook, driver, encourager and the list goes on.

While you struggle with coping with all these issues, guess where your report card is shown, at places where you get some judgmental looks or comments for not getting your act together as a mom. From those who think that by giving your child the bottle, you are just being lazy, “every hard working mom should be able to breastfeed exclusively for the first 6 months of a babies life”, does this sound like a familiar jab?, well for me I tried it but it didn’t work, in fact I got sick before it dawned on me that everyone has to find what works for one in this journey of mommyhood.My first son loved the bottle, my daughter liked breastfeeding a lot, in fact, she refused the bottle and went straight to eating solids.

So what do you do with all these struggles that you are facing?.I would like you to know, that the first time you start as a new stay at home mom, it will seem strange to you just like when you resume your post on a new job, but with time, you will find your rhythm.From then you can then begin to try out new things and see what works and what doesn’t work, you can then decide to throw out what doesn’t work for you and choose what you are comfortable with. And who says that as you go along you won’t acquire the experience which you can package and sell out to new moms like you for a fee. For how to do that please read my post on how to turn your life experience into a money printing online business

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Overworked and Underappreciated:

The interesting thing about being a stay at home mom is that you don’t have a specific work time, from the time your feet hit the floor in the morning time, assuming you had all night sleep which is often a mirage when your kids are between ages of 0-4 years.

Your work is almost like a round the clock work from fixing breakfast, lunch, and dinner to cleaning the home, running errands and shopping. You are practically at work even when others are having a break, no wonder you sometimes feel overwhelmed and overworked.

You may also feel underappreciated when you are not being praised for the work you do at home. Some husbands have been known to come home and say, “ honey what were you doing all day that my dinner is not yet ready”?.

No one understands the many times you have to calm a crying baby or break up siblings quarrels or even act as a judge and jury. It can make you feel like your energy is being sucked out daily, my little advice about this is to find that time to rest during the day, if it means putting the kids to nap in the afternoon and taking your own nap too to get your energy back please do so.
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Of course, it may mean that some things won’t get done perhaps a scattered house or unfolded laundry, but like  I always say, a grumpy mama is no good to anyone. So always find the time to tune off during the day and just relax. It may not necessarily be sleep, sometimes I find that just sitting and watching cartoons with my little ones helps me to relax. You can also choose to quit trying to have everything in the perfect place in other to feel alright.

Now if you are a hubby reading this, know that appreciation goes a long way to make a stay at home mom’s day better. A night off duty will be nice, a back rub here and a foot massage there will make a world of difference.

The baby company only:

When you are a SAHM with a baby at home, the only company you will have is that of a kid, while that is lovely I mean who hates the company of her babies, but sometimes you want to have adult conversations. Where you to be working outside your home, you will often meet new people or at least converse with people like yourself but for a stay at home mom, it’s often baby talk all day long until hubby comes home. This might look good some days at least you have some time to think things through and strategize for any project you have on hand without any distractions. Unfortunately, this may not be the case always because the same distractions can come from children too.

So what does a stay at home do in this case, I say in any case be involved in online forums where you can discuss issues that bother you or vent on what you are going through. When time permits, pick up the phone and call a close friend or family member with whom you can spend time discussing with or exchanging ideas with, this will make you feel a lot better. If you are working from home as a blogger or doing any form of online business, belonging to an online group of people of the same challenges as you can help you gain a better perspective of issues you may be dealing with at that particular time.,

Finances:

This aspect of the struggles of a stay at home mom is very controversial, for some, it’s the constant struggle to stretch the money available to cover all the household bills, for some it may be that you didn’t even have enough to last you throughout the month. For some, It may be that you just have just enough but not excess to take care of some niceties that you are used to when you were working outside the home. While for some people finances may not be the problem but just the feeling that you are not earning anything at all and so you are a one income household.

Whichever divide you fall into know that there is a way out of it, working has been redefined so much right now that you can earn your income even while staying at home, if finance is a major issue for you, then consider ways of working from home to earn extra income.

Here are a few options to earn extra income from home. You can start a home business, offer your services as a freelancer from your home by signing up on platforms such as Fiverr, upwork or you can choose to work for other people from home which may entail applying for online jobs that you can do. Which ever way, you choose to do it, there is a way out you don’t have to feel like your finances took a nose dive and you can’t change it.
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Sometimes you may discover that starting that home business was what you really needed to take your family off the 9- 5 rat race. If starting a home business is your thing, then consider reading my post on how to choose the right home business for you.

Feeling Left Out:

Have you ever gone for an outing where you bumped into an old school colleague or work mate and you started discussing especially pertaining to your field of study or work and you felt left out because a lot has changed without you being aware? This happens particularly when you are a new mom, for the first one year and especially the first 6 months its like you are underwater, your life is practically buried within fulfilling your babies needs, first-time moms can resonate with this better. If you carry on discussing you may feel like you don’t seem to know the trends that are even going on now, thanks to your new job, stay at home mom Lol, but seriously those feelings of being left out if left unchecked can begin to make you resent your decision.

But before you go feeling sorry for yourself or getting angry, understand that you need to remind yourself the reasons why you made your choice in the first place, and make peace with the fact that you may not know a lot of things that are currently going on in your former field of work due to your new position but you can begin to make amends by building and connecting with people who are on the same journey as you are and understand the challenges.

Keeping up with colleagues from your former field of influence may not be useful to you if you are not planning to continue in that line of career. Realize that you have changed career and focus on what you must do in the now to get you quickly ramped up on the new journey you are on.

It may mean taking courses to get you ready if you want to start a home business or even starting out without training at all that way you learn the hard knocks your own way.

Either way, you are gathering knowledge that will aid your journey as a stay at home mom who wants to work from home. If you have been brainstorming on ideas about different types of home businesses you may need to read my post on 5 posts that teach you how to make money online.

The truth is that being a stay at home mom doesn’t mean that you can’t utilize your skills in other ways to earn money. With the advent of blogging these days, all forms of knowledge are now monetizable.
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For example, who knew that you could sell your knowledge on how to organize your home, take care of a new born, keep yourself fit e.tc. In fact, information that used to just sit with you doing nothing has become sources of income.The online media has made it possible to be able to share such information’s now and make good money from it.

Do you consider Blogging as one of the avenues to sell your knowledge online, then hop on over to my post on how to start a blog when you are not a techie and learn how to start a blog in as little as 2 hours.

Need for time out

As a stay at home mom, there are times you just feel like you really want a leave, I mean people who work 9-5 have that opportunity of taking a leave to just go home and relax and recharge before going back to work. But for the stay at home mom, she doesn’t get to get that time off.

There are no leave days, where are you leaving to? , your home is supposed to be your leave escape but now you get to stay in it every day and it doesn’t look like it will make for a leave escape anymore. The good thing about this situation is that you don’t have to apply for your leave in other to take one.  or technically you can apply to your hubby to take a leave from work and stay home so you could take the much-needed leave in other to refresh and recharge.

You can choose to go out that day with friends and just have a girls day out or better still visit a close family member whom you can relax in her house and feel like you are in your own home and on holiday without the attendant stress of having to care for your home.

Maybe you can go for a mini holiday to a nearby tourist attraction and just spend time alone, pampering and recharging yourself. Of course, there will be a time and place for family vacation but this little time out is for you alone, so you can be a better mother to your kids and give your best to them. Thinking of taking that mini vacation then try using Booking.com, they have excellent services for your vacation needs they have budget hotel rooms if that suits you.



Do you know of any struggles that a stay at home mom has to deal with, leave a comment below, it will be appreciated.

5 Top Posts that Teach you how to Make money Online

 

List of Posts on How to make Money Online

At the core of my home business ideas for people who want to start a home business is the ability to make money online.  This is because Online business is easier to run and requires low overhead costs.

When people want to make money from home, they are typically constrained by a lot of things especially if they have other responsibilities which make them home bound. For example, if you are a caregiver to a sick person or stay at home mom or Dad. Your main responsibility requires you operate within the confines of your home, therefore you cannot afford to start a brick and mortar business that will require you to leave the home area to go rent an office. This is why making money online provides you with the best option to create what you desire as a person. Today’s article is about 5 top posts that teach how to make money online.

1   Etsy Selling:

Etsy gives you the opportunity to sell your handmade goods online. This means that you can be at home producing your handcrafted items and then have the opportunity to sell to people who love the kind of products that you make. Etsy is a company that has been around since. I wrote a post how to start an Etsy shop, in that post I went in-depth on the various steps you need to follow in other to start an Etsy shop. With the guidelines provided within this post, you should be able to start the online business of selling on Etsy especially if you already have products you make at home that you require to make money from. To read it click Here.

 

2: Printables

Printables Business: In this day of online business, selling your printables online is the fasted business you can start with your design skills. If you have a little design skill and a knack for bringing together good designs, you should be able to make and sell your printables from your laptop anywhere you are. I wrote an excellent piece on how you can start a printables business withing 2 hours. This article was so good that I even took my own advice, lol. I started two shops on 2 platforms after I wrote that post. Here are the shops that I started, one on Redbubble platform and one Zazzle Platform named Eleoraconcepts. This is a post you should not miss out on reading if a basic designer like me can do it, so can you. Read that post Here.

3 Creating an Ecourse

With the advent of the internet, the world has become an online classroom, meaning that anyone who has a life experience worth sharing can create a course and teach anyone who desires to learn.  This is the reason why online learning platforms like Udemy, Coursera  e.t.c are flourishing. Here is a post that will break down the cost of creating a course. The good thing about the course creation is that once it’s done and uploaded on a platform where it can be assessed.,your major work is done. The only thing required is the promotion to get sales. Want to know more about the cost of creating an online course read it Here

4: Selling other peoples Products to Make Money online.

Selling other people’s products has become mush easier especially with products that you have researched and seen that it’s a good fit for the audience you are targeting. When you have physical products which you want to sell but you don’t want to stock it. You also don’t also have much money for overhead costs neither do you want to deal with packaging and shipping. Then you have to consider Dropshipping Business. Drop shopping allows you to promote other people’s products to your target market, make sales from it and then inform the manufacturers to ship it to your buyers.

The good thing about drop shipping is that you make a sale first before you even spend money to buy the goods the person ordered. You don’t have to go through the hassles of stocking products or shipping product. From the comfort of your home, you can sell thousands of products to buyers without ever touching the product just your money. Hahaha. If you love that idea of business then you have to read this post how to start a Drop shipping business. In that post, I went in-depth on all you need to start up. It includes where you can source your product from, the manufacturers and sites that give you the best list of wholesalers to how you can set up an eCommerce platform that suits your needs. Read it here.

5: Writing to Make money Online.

If you have a knack for writing great articles or you love to tell a good story, then the online business that will suit you will be Blogging. Blogging has given lots of people the opportunity to tell their own individual stories and make a living by sharing it with their followers. By creating a followership, they have been able to monetize their content and get themselves a tidy income all from the comfort of their home. The beautiful thing about blogging is that you can blog about anything and you will find your own tribe of followers that will like your content. I  did a post on how blogging will help you make an income. Read it here. If blogging is what excites you then you have to ensure you know about Plugins, the very great helper of the Newbie Blogger. Read my post on 7 must have  Plugins for a newbie blogger.

 

If you have looked at all these choices and you can’t seem to find something that suits you, then head over to my post on how to pay yourself as a stay at home mom for more ideas and options.

I can’t end this post without telling you that working from home is not always so cool. Therefore here are 7 things to expect when you work from home.

A little dose of inspiration to close for today, read my post on God will outlast your storm.

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Guidelines on setting up your Etsy Shop

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How to start your Etsy Shop

I have always loved handcrafted items because of the time it takes to create it. I believe that handmade goods always show the creativity of the maker. One of the reasons I love things that are crafted is because they are usually unique, it’s not found everywhere like Mass produced stuff.

While I have no problems with Mass produced things, I mean how else can the world’s needs be serviced with just hand crafted goods, we will run out of supply.

The uniqueness, the time spent making it and the loveliness is what often attracts me to things that are hand crafted. That’s why my today’s post is about Etsy an online platform that gives opportunity to people to sell their created stuff.

Etsy.com is an online retail platform that allows artisans to sell their hand made stuff, they take care of the ordering, payment processing and notifications so that artisans can focus on creating products for sale.

I have always been a fan of ethnic jewelry, so whenever I see a beautifully made one with precious stones, I want to have it because it speaks to my emotions. One of the things that you should strive to do as an Etsy seller is to speak to people’s emotion, when you do that. There is no price they will not be willing to pay. If you want to set up an Etsy Shop, here are a few guidelines you might want to consider.

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Guidelines to setting up your Etsy Shop

Product

Before ever you decide to open a shop, the very first thing that should occur to you will be what do I sell? What kind of products do you make? Be it jewelry, crocheted clothing or whatever you decide, it has to be something you will be willing to make continuously without getting tired. It should also be unique.

I once had a neighbor who made custom made clothing but the beautiful thing about her own clothing was the beautiful beads that she used in decorating the clothing. It made her clothing line unique and people always sort her out to buy them. Therefore whatever  your product is, ensure it’s something that is so unique that people will seek out to buy them, after all that’s the reason people will come to etsy, to get unique stuff that you can’t find in every day shop. If you make it worth their while, you will get repeat purchases

In making your products, it will be nice to have sets of products that go together to encourage more purchase. For instance instead of just making an earring for that design perhaps you may consider making a matching necklace and bangle or anklet, that way when people like the earring, they may consider buying the matching set. The accompanying set increases how much they will spend much more than if they were just buying one item.

Research

Check out other Etsy shops and look for the top sellers to know what makes them standout and that way you can know what to add to your own shop. In doing your research, check out the arrangement of their listings and what is working on such shops. You can also use the site craftcount  to check out the best shops on Etsy and see what is working for them, that way you arm yourself with ample knowledge before you set out.

Research also has to do with checking out items that collaborate with what you are going to sell, see how you can collaborate with those who make those complementary items and figure out how to ensure that you have such goods in your shop, that way you sell more and it’s a win- win for everyone. Here is an example, if you sell jewelry and you see a shop that makes custom made purses that you could match with your jewelry, you could reach out to the purse maker and collaborate by listing their own products too on your shop, when you sell, they can fulfill it and give you a commission for the sales.

Terms of Engagement and Rules

The next thing you need to check out is the terms of engagement before you start selling, Etsy is a platform provided by someone else, it’s like renting shop  space so you must be prepared to abide by the terms of engagement of the Landlord. This will enable you avoid problems later on. Ignorance is no excuse, you don’t want your shop being shut down after you have started gaining traction, so ensure that you know the rules very well and play by them

Cost and Pricing:

Before you go into the business of selling, ensure that you know what your total costs are and how you intend to factor it into the final sale price. Don’t forget the fact that you need to input the listing price of your products, another very important cost is the cost of shipping which we shall discuss later in this article.

Remember you are in business to make profit so ensure that you calculate your costs in such a way as to turn a profit. Without a profit, you will go out of business.

Another cost that you need to remember is the cost of marketing you store, just because you are on Etsy does not mean the whole world will come to you. It will cost you some amount to get people to come to your shop via advertising.

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Payment Platform:

Before you get off to running your shop on Etsy, you need to choose a payment gateway. A payment gateway is a platform that allows buyers to pay you for your goods. A good platform I will recommend is: PAYONEER  , they help you receive payments from all over the world and you can easily withdraw your funds from a local bank or ATM as you choose. Another popular platform is PAYPAL, You may want to have various options so as not to limit buyer’s choices when it comes to paying you.

Shipping:

You will have to decide what shipping services to use, this is because it constitutes part of your sales cost if you are offering free shipping, and some people choose to go with USPS because of their flat shipping rates regardless of where you are sending your products to. You can also make arrangements for pick-ups so as to avoid running to the postal agency each time you make a sale.

Stock your shop

Ensure you have a good stock up on your shop before you go online, no one is advising that you hold large inventory but you can be moderate in such a way that you don’t run out of products especially if you are preparing for a launch or opening day, you don’t want to run out of options when people start ordering for products.

Marketing:Under this marketing tab am going to discuss, several topics because I think they go together namely; Naming your shop, Branding, product description and Photography.

  • Name: What is in a name and how does that affect your brand? when you are picking a name for your shop, you want to pick a name that resonates with what your core values are and also works with the brand you are trying to create, sometimes people can get stuck in trying to come up with a name, but you can choose to make it easy for yourself by coming up with a name that you will be building your brand with. Etsy is a marketplace so most times people don’t look at shop names when they buy but you also want to choose a name that easily comes up when people are searching for products in your niche. I love the idea of people building a brand around their names because it makes one unique. If you decide to start a blog later around your line of products, it will work perfectly for you. If you find that you keep getting stuck on getting name, just choose a name you can always change it just before you launch.
  • Branding: When you are starting out, branding may not mean much to you, but you have to keep in mind that as you grow, you want to have a uniqueness that is attached with your products, that is where products design, logo and way of presentation matters. If you had like to design logo but don’t know how to, you can outsource it on Fiverr and you will have your designs before you know it. Fiverr is an excellent outsourcing platform where you can find all kinds of digital services starting from as low as 5 bucks.
  • Photography: People will buy what they like especially when it speaks to their emotions. You can invest in a good DSLR camera or you can use your IPhone if you have one to take quality pictures of your products. Remember to keep the background plain, so as to use contrast to bring out the beauty of your products.
  • If you have neither of these, good old camera on the phone will do but ensure you have enough light to make your product stand out against the background. I always love using white plain background if it is a dark jewelry to showcase the product. Remember that the use of props such as jewelry hanging case will make all the difference. You can also place pictures of models wearing what you have made to increase its appeal.
  • Product description: No matter how good your products, its description that will make it easy for your clients to find you. So you want to research for keywords that people use in your niche in other to use it to optimize your store so that when people are searching your products, it easily comes up. Product description is like the modern day direction for a brick and mortar store.
  • Launch Day:  Do all you can to let people know you are open for business. Spread the word, pick a date that you will be launching your shop, if you have friends who are bloggers, you can ask them to write a feature post for your shop on their blogs or mention you in their Facebook or twitter handles.

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Finally, tell people about your store using the various social media options we have, I think Pinterest will make a good one because of the fact that it has to do a lot with pictures, don’t forget Instagram and the likes. Tweak and find out which social media option is working for you and use it to your advantage.