6 things a Stay at home mom struggles with

The struggles of a stay at home mom
6 things a stay at home mom struggles with

The word stay at home mom evokes a lot of different pictures in peoples mind, for some, it’s a word used to describe women who don’t like to work but prefer to sit at home and watch movies all day in the name of looking after their kids. I really wish it were so but I do know now it’s not so.

Stay at home mom is a woman who wears all the hats there is in the home plus some more without having the attendant payment to show for it.
When a woman chooses to be a stay at home mom, it’s often a huge sacrifice she has to make in other to see that her home is well run or in other to see that her kids have the kind of training and nurturing that she desires.

Some women have been known to leave lucrative careers to become stay at home moms because the effect of leaving their lovely ones in the hands of other people to care for became too much to bear and therefore they chose that off the career ramp option to care for the most important people in their lives.

For some people it may make sense for others, it may not because after all is said and done, it’s the investment you put in your family that matters most.

Children don’t care if they are in the most expensive house or car or wear the best clothes, as long as their parents were there for them when they needed them most.So today I am going to share with you the 6 things that stay at home mom struggles with because I have been there too and I know what it feels like

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Feelings of Inadequacy:

If you are a first-time mom who just chose to stay at home, this may resonate well with you, that feeling of do I know what I just did? I mean I just left my well-paying job to stay home to take care of my baby. Sometimes you may even feel like even the mom job you are not doing so well at it. The truth may also be that at least for your paid job you were well trained but to become a mom, you had no prior training and yet you are expected to be perfect at it.

You feel inadequate because you are trying to cope with having to leave a career that once defined what you could bring to the table at home and then you also have to cope with the fact that your new job does not have any job description attached to it. There is no end to where your job stops, you are the nanny, caregiver, nurse, housecleaner,  and any other thing that comes in between including cook, driver, encourager and the list goes on.

While you struggle with coping with all these issues, guess where your report card is shown, at places where you get some judgmental looks or comments for not getting your act together as a mom. From those who think that by giving your child the bottle, you are just being lazy, “every hard working mom should be able to breastfeed exclusively for the first 6 months of a babies life”, does this sound like a familiar jab?, well for me I tried it but it didn’t work, in fact I got sick before it dawned on me that everyone has to find what works for one in this journey of mommyhood.My first son loved the bottle, my daughter liked breastfeeding a lot, in fact, she refused the bottle and went straight to eating solids.

So what do you do with all these struggles that you are facing?.I would like you to know, that the first time you start as a new stay at home mom, it will seem strange to you just like when you resume your post on a new job, but with time, you will find your rhythm.From then you can then begin to try out new things and see what works and what doesn’t work, you can then decide to throw out what doesn’t work for you and choose what you are comfortable with. And who says that as you go along you won’t acquire the experience which you can package and sell out to new moms like you for a fee. For how to do that please read my post on how to turn your life experience into a money printing online business

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Overworked and Underappreciated:

The interesting thing about being a stay at home mom is that you don’t have a specific work time, from the time your feet hit the floor in the morning time, assuming you had all night sleep which is often a mirage when your kids are between ages of 0-4 years.

Your work is almost like a round the clock work from fixing breakfast, lunch, and dinner to cleaning the home, running errands and shopping. You are practically at work even when others are having a break, no wonder you sometimes feel overwhelmed and overworked.

You may also feel underappreciated when you are not being praised for the work you do at home. Some husbands have been known to come home and say, “ honey what were you doing all day that my dinner is not yet ready”?.

No one understands the many times you have to calm a crying baby or break up siblings quarrels or even act as a judge and jury. It can make you feel like your energy is being sucked out daily, my little advice about this is to find that time to rest during the day, if it means putting the kids to nap in the afternoon and taking your own nap too to get your energy back please do so.
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Of course, it may mean that some things won’t get done perhaps a scattered house or unfolded laundry, but like  I always say, a grumpy mama is no good to anyone. So always find the time to tune off during the day and just relax. It may not necessarily be sleep, sometimes I find that just sitting and watching cartoons with my little ones helps me to relax. You can also choose to quit trying to have everything in the perfect place in other to feel alright.

Now if you are a hubby reading this, know that appreciation goes a long way to make a stay at home mom’s day better. A night off duty will be nice, a back rub here and a foot massage there will make a world of difference.

The baby company only:

When you are a SAHM with a baby at home, the only company you will have is that of a kid, while that is lovely I mean who hates the company of her babies, but sometimes you want to have adult conversations. Where you to be working outside your home, you will often meet new people or at least converse with people like yourself but for a stay at home mom, it’s often baby talk all day long until hubby comes home. This might look good some days at least you have some time to think things through and strategize for any project you have on hand without any distractions. Unfortunately, this may not be the case always because the same distractions can come from children too.

So what does a stay at home do in this case, I say in any case be involved in online forums where you can discuss issues that bother you or vent on what you are going through. When time permits, pick up the phone and call a close friend or family member with whom you can spend time discussing with or exchanging ideas with, this will make you feel a lot better. If you are working from home as a blogger or doing any form of online business, belonging to an online group of people of the same challenges as you can help you gain a better perspective of issues you may be dealing with at that particular time.,

Finances:

This aspect of the struggles of a stay at home mom is very controversial, for some, it’s the constant struggle to stretch the money available to cover all the household bills, for some it may be that you didn’t even have enough to last you throughout the month. For some, It may be that you just have just enough but not excess to take care of some niceties that you are used to when you were working outside the home. While for some people finances may not be the problem but just the feeling that you are not earning anything at all and so you are a one income household.

Whichever divide you fall into know that there is a way out of it, working has been redefined so much right now that you can earn your income even while staying at home, if finance is a major issue for you, then consider ways of working from home to earn extra income.

Here are a few options to earn extra income from home. You can start a home business, offer your services as a freelancer from your home by signing up on platforms such as Fiverr, upwork or you can choose to work for other people from home which may entail applying for online jobs that you can do. Which ever way, you choose to do it, there is a way out you don’t have to feel like your finances took a nose dive and you can’t change it.
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Sometimes you may discover that starting that home business was what you really needed to take your family off the 9- 5 rat race. If starting a home business is your thing, then consider reading my post on how to choose the right home business for you.

Feeling Left Out:

Have you ever gone for an outing where you bumped into an old school colleague or work mate and you started discussing especially pertaining to your field of study or work and you felt left out because a lot has changed without you being aware? This happens particularly when you are a new mom, for the first one year and especially the first 6 months its like you are underwater, your life is practically buried within fulfilling your babies needs, first-time moms can resonate with this better. If you carry on discussing you may feel like you don’t seem to know the trends that are even going on now, thanks to your new job, stay at home mom Lol, but seriously those feelings of being left out if left unchecked can begin to make you resent your decision.

But before you go feeling sorry for yourself or getting angry, understand that you need to remind yourself the reasons why you made your choice in the first place, and make peace with the fact that you may not know a lot of things that are currently going on in your former field of work due to your new position but you can begin to make amends by building and connecting with people who are on the same journey as you are and understand the challenges.

Keeping up with colleagues from your former field of influence may not be useful to you if you are not planning to continue in that line of career. Realize that you have changed career and focus on what you must do in the now to get you quickly ramped up on the new journey you are on.

It may mean taking courses to get you ready if you want to start a home business or even starting out without training at all that way you learn the hard knocks your own way.

Either way, you are gathering knowledge that will aid your journey as a stay at home mom who wants to work from home. If you have been brainstorming on ideas about different types of home businesses you may need to read my post on 5 posts that teach you how to make money online.

The truth is that being a stay at home mom doesn’t mean that you can’t utilize your skills in other ways to earn money. With the advent of blogging these days, all forms of knowledge are now monetizable.
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For example, who knew that you could sell your knowledge on how to organize your home, take care of a new born, keep yourself fit e.tc. In fact, information that used to just sit with you doing nothing has become sources of income.The online media has made it possible to be able to share such information’s now and make good money from it.

Do you consider Blogging as one of the avenues to sell your knowledge online, then hop on over to my post on how to start a blog when you are not a techie and learn how to start a blog in as little as 2 hours.

Need for time out

As a stay at home mom, there are times you just feel like you really want a leave, I mean people who work 9-5 have that opportunity of taking a leave to just go home and relax and recharge before going back to work. But for the stay at home mom, she doesn’t get to get that time off.

There are no leave days, where are you leaving to? , your home is supposed to be your leave escape but now you get to stay in it every day and it doesn’t look like it will make for a leave escape anymore. The good thing about this situation is that you don’t have to apply for your leave in other to take one.  or technically you can apply to your hubby to take a leave from work and stay home so you could take the much-needed leave in other to refresh and recharge.

You can choose to go out that day with friends and just have a girls day out or better still visit a close family member whom you can relax in her house and feel like you are in your own home and on holiday without the attendant stress of having to care for your home.

Maybe you can go for a mini holiday to a nearby tourist attraction and just spend time alone, pampering and recharging yourself. Of course, there will be a time and place for family vacation but this little time out is for you alone, so you can be a better mother to your kids and give your best to them. Thinking of taking that mini vacation then try using Booking.com, they have excellent services for your vacation needs they have budget hotel rooms if that suits you.



Do you know of any struggles that a stay at home mom has to deal with, leave a comment below, it will be appreciated.

How to Choose the Right Work at Home Business

How to choose the perfect work at home business for you
How to choose the right work at home business

How to Choose the Right Work at Home Business for You

Creating a work at home business is a great way to balance your family life with your need to earn money. But, you need to seriously sit down and figure out whether you want a product based business or a service based business.

Both product and service based business sell a product but in one case the product is tangible and in another it’s a skill. In order to determine that let’s look at some differences between a product based business and a services based business.

Product Based Business

When you sell a product it’s usually a tangible item but with the advent of the Internet and digital products, the lines are being blurred. Today, you can offer digital products, courses, books, blogs, videos and information as your product as well as products you can touch like jewelry, art, and so forth. Don’t get tied up in thinking you must create the products. You can become an affiliate or reseller for the right products. To learn about affiliate companies that will easily accept you when starting out, read my post on affiliate network that will accept a newbie blogger.

 

Services Based Business

When you deal in services the client puts their faith in you and perhaps your staff to perform the services they hired you to do, depending on your skills and experience. These are things like bookkeeping, architecture, legal services; virtual assistance, graphic design and coaching services are all service based business.

You can combine both a service based business model with a product based business model on the Internet and have the best of all worlds. For example, you can promote a book and a course as a life coach offering your coaching services as your higher priced product over the books and courses.

In order to determine what services and/or products you want to promote in your work at home business take the time to do your due diligence.

-Make a List of Your Skills – It’s important to do an inventory of your skills. The first thing you need to do is to write down a list of what you already know how to do. Do you have computer skills, people skills, and knowledge that you can share with or teach others?

-Determine Who You Want to Work With – Do you love a certain group of people and what they do or what they stand for? For example, perhaps you are currently a paralegal at a law firm and you enjoy working with attorneys and helping clients who are dealing with divorce. You can still do that with your own work at home business. It’s important to identify the exact audience you want to work with whether you’re going to promote products, a service or both.

-Make a List of Things You Can Do for Your Audience – Once you have your skillset and audience determined now you can start figuring out how to solve their problems. Identify their pain points of the audience you chose, narrow it down to two or three pain points and then figure out how you can serve them.

-Match Your Skillset with the Services – A key in choosing products, creating products, and offering services is to match your skill set with what is needed to solve the pain points of your audience. When you take the time to do this you’ll find that your work at home business is going to be more successful.

Finally, once you’ve chosen your audience, and your niche within that audience and whether or not you’ll have a product or service based business (or both) you’ll have some other things to work out too. Ask yourself the following questions.

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How Much Startup Cash Do You Have?

The type of business you choose will be affected a lot by how much cash you have to get started. Service based businesses are a lot less expensive to start, depending on your skill set.

Digital products don’t cost much more to develop either, again depending on your own skills and whether or not you’ll need to outsource some of the work such as website design or product creation.

You can start a work at home business for relatively little money compared to a bricks and mortar business. You don’t have the high rent, utilities and so forth to pay for like a bricks and mortar business. Therefore, your startup costs can be a lot lower, but you still have startup costs.

-Business License Fees – You need to get a business license in most states and counties in the USA to run a business from your home. Usually, the cost is very low, so don’t allow yourself to be afraid of finding out the costs and rules in your area.

-Technology Costs – You may already own a computer and the technology that you need, but you may need to invest in some extra software too. Today you can “rent” software on a monthly basis which makes it a 100 percent write off like other direct expenses. For example, it costs $9.99 a month to rent bookkeeping software through Go Daddy. That is a cost you can write off as an expense.

-Contractor Fees – You may need to hire help such as marketing professionals, virtual assistants, web designers and others to help you get started and maintain your business.

But, there are also deductions you can count on when running a business from your home. If you can set up an exclusive area of your home to be the home office you can get quite a large home office deduction that makes everything even less expensive when starting a home business because these expenses you can deduct won’t go up, such as utilities, electricity, internet and so forth.

Another way of determining how much it will cost you to start up is by writing a one-page business plan. You can read how to go about that in my post: you don’t need a 100-page business plan to start one. In that post, you get a free template you can use to write your plan down.

Do You Like Being Upfront or Behind the Scenes?

Some people love the idea of their work at home business being all about them. They name their business with their own name, they are the business. This is common with life coaches, public speakers, and even doctors. They are the expert and the name behind their business. Others prefer to be more behind the scenes and not be a household name.

There is no right or wrong answer when it comes to this. What matters is that you are happy with your choice. Don’t try to push yourself into a position that you don’t like because it will make it hard for you to want to work your business each day. Be honest with your assessments about your tolerance for publicity.

Do not think that if you’re an introvert you can’t create an amazing home based business, you can. The Internet is the perfect place for that. Some very famous introverts are J.K. Rowlings, Bill Gates and Warren Buffett. While they didn’t directly start an “internet based” business they all started at home.

How Much Time Do You Have to Devote?

Another important factor is the time it takes to do a business. A service based business essentially trades hours for dollars so you’ll need to have enough hours at a high enough rate to make the money you want to earn. With a product based business, you may be able to earn more without considering the hours as much.

However, with a service based business, you can earn money faster which is why combining a product based business with a service based business is a good option for many who need to start earning faster. For example, you can start with a book, and then offer a service described in the book. This works great with life coaches.

Answering these questions will help you identify what you can realistically do as a work at home business.  Once you identify the niche, your resources, and narrow down what you’ll do to earn money in your work at home business.

In addition to these questions, it’s important to understand what goes into the business you want to start and that you have the skills necessary to do it.

Do Your Due Diligence

It’s important to check your facts before you get your heart set on any one business. Once you’ve matched your skills with your audience and identified their pain points now you need to dig in and do some more research.

-How Many People are In Your Target Audience? – This is an important question to answer because if there aren’t enough people in your niche to be profitable then you may need to choose a different audience. If you need to earn 100K a year, you need to know how many people you need to sell to.

-What Price Point Can Your Audience Afford? – In addition to how many people are in your target audience, you need to know how much they can afford to pay for your potential products and / or services. What is your offering worth to them and can they afford to buy them?

-Can You Earn the Profit You Need? – Based on the numbers can you become profitable? This is such a huge issue when starting any business. You have to perform an analysis, called a S.W.O.T. analysis, which stands for strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats.

Don’t leave a stone unturned in your research to choose the right work at home business. You need to know the good and the bad of each choice that you make before you even get started with your work at home business. While doing your research, consider making use of my Resource library.

Other Things to Consider When Starting a Work At Home Business

There are so many things to consider when choosing a Work At Home business to start. Because you don’t just want to start, you also want to earn a living at it. Outside of the logical things to consider mentioned above there are some emotional factors to think about.

-Do You Feel Passionate About Your Niche? – When you have your own business you have to be willing to live it and breathe it. If you don’t like it, and don’t have a true love for doing it, whatever it is, you will not be happy doing it and you’ll likely not devote the time and effort needed to make it successful. Ensure that your choices come down to something you feel strongly about enough that you can envision yourself doing it every day 40 or more hours a week, happily.

-Does It Match Your Value System? – You may not realize that you even have a value system. But, when you start thinking about the type of people you’ll work closely with in the new business, and their values and moral code, you’ll soon realize that it does make a huge difference. For example, let’s say you want to start a paralegal business from home. Do you want to work with lawyers who defend criminals or who help people through a divorce? If either of these ideas goes against your value system you won’t feel good about it.

-Is it Viable Long-term? – A huge issue with any business is determining whether or not it’s a short lived fad, or a trend, or whether it can hold up long term. There’s nothing wrong with cashing in on a trend, but you want your main business to stand the test of time and last for the next ten or twenty years.

-What’s Your Exit Strategy? – When you work for someone else, you have an exit strategy built in. You pay into social security and usually a company retirement plan and that’s how you live when you stop working. But, when you have your own business while you do pay into and can collect social security, you’re 100 percent responsible for the payments and setting up your own retirement plan. If you create your work at home business right, you can actually sell it for retirement. It’s a real, viable business and you should think of it that way.

Developing a profitable home based business takes just as much work to start as a bricks and mortar business. You still have to do the work by the numbers, and meet the requirements of the law. Plus you want to actually like what you’re doing in the end. After all, it feels good to go to work if you like it, right?

Otherwise, it’s just going to feel like another job that causes stress in your life and makes you want to run away. If you do the work necessary to choose the right business for you, you’ll love it, feel motivated every single day, and end up happier in the end. You’ll have true time and money freedom with the right work at home business.

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Be Honest About What It Takes

When you start any business it’s important, to be honest with yourself about what it takes to get things done. Keep track of the time, money and resources that you use so that you can project your future needs. Keeping the books balanced will help you keep your business on track.

-Time Freedom – Knowing how much time you’ll really need to spend on your business is important. If you only have 2 hours a day to spend, you’ll need to ensure that you pick the right business to be in.

-Money Freedom – Keeping track with a bookkeeping system is important because if you don’t have money to pay your taxes and expenses you’ll go out of business.

-Personal Freedom – One of the best things about a work at home business is that you can adjust the time you spend on your business so that it works better with your life. However, sometimes you have to put the business first. If you always choose family and friends over your business, your business will fail.

By understanding the myths about working at home, you know – the sitting on the beach with your feet in the sand while your business magically generates millions of dollars is a fantasy.  Now you can set up a more realistic business model that will be successful for you.

Marketing Matters

No matter what type of business you choose to run from home, don’t be shy about it. Once you make the decision, be proud of it. Tell everyone you know about your new business. Teach other people about your working hours so that they respect your time, project the type of professional image that you want people to see you as, and don’t hide. For doubters, show them the money.

-Website – Home based businesses even more than bricks and mortar business need a website. That is your storefront. You need to create an awesome storefront to market your business.

-Business Cards – Make some business cards to help you get the word out in person and locally. You can put business cards on tables, bulletin boards and in the hands of people you meet every day.

-Networking – Don’t forget that you can network online too with social media groups and forums. You don’t have to walk up to someone in person; you can instead engage people online to network.

Running your WAH business can be very satisfying if you go into it with your eyes wide open. Determine the best business for you based on facts, not myths. Craft a plan of action to get your business up and running and be proud that you’re a WAH business. After all, if you plan it right, you’ll have the business of your dreams plus the time to enjoy your life.

If you desire to learn more about different work at home business ideas why not read my post on 5 posts that teach you how to make money online

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Affiliate Networks that accept a Newbie Blogger

Affiliate Network for Newbie Bloggers

Affiliate incomes are often the easiest way to start earning money on your Blog as a newbie blogger. This is because it is often about promoting other people’s products that you have used before, or you believe in. By promoting these products, you make money by getting a commission once you make a sale. This idea is used by many product creators to get people to market their products, It’s a win-win idea.  For some of the affiliates I mentioned in my checklist, you can make up to 60% of the products price as a commission when you make a sale.

Affiliate marketing is one income avenue you can easily use to start monetizing your blog right from the beginning without creating your own products. if you are good on affiliates, you may even find it earns you a chunk of your Blog income before you start creating your own products.

There is one snag about affiliates though, not all affiliates will accept your application to be an affiliate of their products because they have their own specifications on the type of audience they want and the number of followings you have on social media. While that reason can motivate some people to go work on their numbers, it can also discourage some few people.

 

When I started my blogging journey, I thought I will be accepted on every affiliate network I applied to once I had my domain name and a few posts on my blog but it wasn’t so. I wished there was a list that could show me which ones will accept me and which ones will not so I could focus on applying to those ones instead of going through rejects. So I have created a checklist of some affiliate networks that will easily accept a newbie Blogger.

Click here to access it.

Since you are a newbie Blogger, you may want to read my post on the best plugins to use. In that post, I explained the 7 must have Plugins for every new blogger.

 

How to Pay yourself as a stay at home mom

 

How to pay yourself as a stay at home mom

There is a constant debate as to how much a stay at home mom should be paid for the work they do. while some feel it’s a personal choice to get off the career ladder and go take care of the home hence the government should not be burdened by whether they get paid or not. Others feel that the work that they do is a great job so they should be compensated adequately.

Whichever side of the jury you belong to, here is one truth which every one of us must agree to, when a child is well raised, it’s a benefit not only to the parents that raised him but to the whole society. The society is made up of families because every child comes from a family, so when we put our families first, we ensure that the next generation of children grows up to become responsible adults who are able to contribute to their society. This is not to say that when you are not staying home to raise your children they will not turn out well. What we are saying is that if you choose to make that decision to stay home and raise your kids, your career shouldn’t have to suffer because of your choice.

 

There is one thing I have always believed in, that is the fact that you can make your own way if the circumstances don’t allow you to do what you need to do. Having a career fulfills a part of you that nothing else could possibly do because it helps you take control of your own destiny. When you are  a stay at home mom, there are so many things you have got to battle with, from finances to self-confidence and sometimes a feeling that perhaps you did not even make the right choice by giving up your career.



What you need to realize is that even though you have made that sacrifice to stay home, you don’t have to throw away your earning ability. Technology has made it easy to be able to earn an income from home. This is the reason I am writing this piece today to encourage stay at home moms to stand up and launch a business that can sustain you from home. The business will support your lifestyle and give you the ability to live the life you want without feeling like you have lost a lot by leaving your Job to stay home.

Your children will be much more thankful if you can prove that you could stay home to take care of their needs and still provide for them. You are not scrimping and saving just to make it through every month.

I believe that this generation is calling for what Mary Kay Ash did when the corporate world would not allow her rise because she is a woman, she went out and found her own company. Today we see the results of what she did, she inspired a whole generation of women to do something about their own situation.



If you are like most stay at home moms, perhaps you may be confused as to where to start from. How do you start a business online when you are not tech savvy and you have never run a business too, here is my Free Ebook, it will give the needed information to ramp up and start immediately.

If you are confused about choices to make then you need to read my post about business you can do from home to make up to 6 figures, get it Here.

Do you have a life experience you want to share with others, here is how you can monetize that experience and make a ton of money out it. Read my Post How to turn your Life experience into a money Printing online business.

If you already have a business idea but don’t know how to market it to your audience or how to turn it into a real business, then you need to read this post about 7 helpful tips for the home business owner.

So while the Jury is still out on whether you should get paid or not for the Job of raising your kids, you can choose to start a home Business. If you want to know how I did it, then read this story on how I ran my training solutions company from home

 

Here is a list of Home business ideas you can start from home as a stay at home mom.

    • Online Marketing Consultant – If you love helping others promote their business on social media and other online avenues then an online marketing consultant might be something you’d like to do. With the popularity of Facebook and other social sites businesses need a lot of help doing everything from posting memes to helping them develop better profiles.
    • Webinar Expert – Many types of business owners have regular webinars to promote their products and services. They need people who know how to use the platform they choose, how to set up sign up pages, and how to troubleshoot the technology.
    • Online Business Manager –Just like a bricks and mortar business needs a manager, any business online that expects to grow needs a manager too. You can specialize with different niches such as managing a coaching business, an affiliate business or even an online business that sells physical products.
    • Life / Business Coach – If you have a gift for helping people and the expertise to do it you can become a life or business coach. There are coaches that help people start businesses, lose weight, parent better and more.
    • Affiliate Marketing – With affiliate marketing you usually combine blogging or vlogging with promoting other people’s products. You’ll get a special link that you set up to send people to the product and you’ll get a percentage of each sale that you make. Here is a Link to an affiliate marketing site that pays well AWIN:    

  • Online Teacher / Tutor – Today, there are many ways that you can teach people online. You no longer have to be in the same room. You can use live streaming technology to meet with students live or you can set up courses using a platform like Udemy.com for almost any type of subject from learning to be happy to algebra.

Starting an online business simply requires knowledge of using the technology available, knowing who you want to work with, what your skills are and finding a way to match those qualities together to create an amazing online business.

When you work from home, most of the time you don’t have to get child care or buy nice clothing, or even have transportation. You can schedule your work around your children’s schedules and create a very balanced life while earning a full time living.

6 things I have learned on my Journey to Motherhood

6 things I have learned on My Journey to MotherhoodNothing prepares you for motherhood, not even a thousand books. You will never know what’s it’s like until you hold that tiny bundle of love in your arms. The 14th of this month of May is  Mothers day celebration, while I have seen all kinds of write ups about what a mom wants on a Mother’s day, I even wrote mine out. But as I held my 4month old son Osinachi in my arms, I realized that my mother’s day list is not about what I want for that day but what I have learned on my Journey to motherhood.

I have 3 adorable kids, 2 boys and a girl that is so mischievous that sometimes I wonder what goes on in her head. Everyone of them is different yet they were born to the same parents. I can’t count the so many antics they have been through and perhaps much more to come. But one thing I will always cherish is the time I spend with them.

So in going through this Journey, here are 6 things I have learned on my Journey to Motherhood

You will always hold the Care of your Child foremost than anything: When you become a mother, it dawns on you that these precious kids depend on your for everything they will require to become functioning adults in life. You will want to do your best for them and no matter who quits on them you won’t because you are the best caregiver that your Baby will require. While others may help out once in a while, it’s you that understands them the best. I was going to travel last November, someone suggested that since I was pregnant, I should drop off my two older kids with my younger sister who was living in London. My Kids sister is the best mother you can ever think of, I see her as a superwoman,  how else can you be holding a baby in your arms and still manage to undertake a training that was hectic in other to change your career. Much as I know she will do her very best to take care of them. I still felt that she will not understand how to minister to their needs like I would. So I had no option but to take them along on my Journey. The key thing there is that no one will care for your child like you would.

Your Time is not your own: When you were single, there were days that you planned to have your Me time for yourself. Perhaps you didn’t pick phone calls that day or maybe you weren’t entertaining visitors, you just want to spend your Me time perhaps lounging at the beach. Not anymore when you become a mother, your time is not yours to spend. Yes, you may plan to have your me time, but at the cry of your lovely baby, you will suddenly abandon your choice me time to go attend to him. I don’t know how many dinners have been botched because baby became fussy or the Nanny called to say the baby is running a temperature.

All Night Sleep is a Mirage: If there is anything a mom longs for, it’s a time to sleep all night without someone waking you up in the middle of the night for one thing or the other. My daughter who is my middle kid was breastfed almost exclusively. Wao she loved to nurse. It was a battle to wean her off my breast. Even at that when she wants to sleep, you will find her hand wandering down to my breast just so she can sleep. After I weaned her at 14 months, I introduced a milk bottle for her night feedings so she wouldn’t miss the nightly nursing so much. My bad, she was still clinging to that night feeding way after I have had the third baby. My third baby will be nursing, my second Child will get up at 2 am to request her own bottle. My nights with the third baby were really tough. I was handling 3 kids that were between the ages of 0- 4years.  But then, it is the greatest thing that can happen to me, because I know when I prayed hard to hold my own baby.

Your body will not be the same again: Just some few days ago, I saw a picture I took 7 years ago, thanks to Facebook, you get to see memories that you have even forgotten about. So I saw this before I ever conceived picture, and  I was like I wish I could get to being like that again.  I have been battling to lose weight after each baby, but after two Lost pregnancies and 3 kids later, my body is not the same. The scars of birthing a child will always be there. The Tiger marks will always be there, the Breasts won’t have that bounce anymore and more importantly, I will struggle with the pregnancy pouch produced my expanding and compressing my skin every time I conceive and put to bed.



I am not complaining about these things,  I wear them as my badge of honor. A person who wins a prize always has something to show for it. So my prize tags are the pouch that I struggle to hold down with a Leonisa Postpartum Shapewear, the firm bra from Leonisa and most importantly, the constant use of skincare products to keep my skin firm and supple. I am a proud mama of 3 and won’t give it up for anything.



Your pay will be in Tiny Hugs and Loves given by your kids:   There is a constant debate on how much a stay at home mom should earn for staying at home and raising her kids, I understand the monetary aspect. Stay at home moms do a very tough work from calming recalcitrant kids to being pooped on or burped on or even urinated upon, to feeding hungry bellies and soothing a sick child. There is no compensation that can satiate what a mother does for her children. That’s why I say that while the monetary aspect is good, a more priceless payment is the tiny hugs and loves given to you by the ones who love you best, your children. You can’t replace the Love in your heart when you receive that love from them. That is what makes you feel compensated at the end of the day. Love never fails.

God will always give you the grace to be the best Mother you can Be: 

When you become a mother, you want to make the best decisions for your children, but because we are not perfect, we may sometimes make decisions that even though they were in good faith may turn out to be a disaster. This is where we need Gods help through the Holy Spirit our game changer to make such decision. God created our kids and knows what they were designed for, he will guide our decision so that we can help them enter into their perfect calling. He will give us the grace to be the best mother we can be to our children.

I know there are so many things I want for my Mothers day gift pack, but I do realize that the greatest gift of all has already been given to me. The gift of Motherhood and nothing can surpass that gift.

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P.s: This Post was recreated after I lost the initial one to hackers on Mothers day. Hope you enjoyed it.

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