6 things I have learned on my Journey to Motherhood

6 things I have learned on My Journey to MotherhoodNothing prepares you for motherhood, not even a thousand books. You will never know what’s it’s like until you hold that tiny bundle of love in your arms. The 14th of this month of May is  Mothers day celebration, while I have seen all kinds of write ups about what a mom wants on a Mother’s day, I even wrote mine out. But as I held my 4month old son Osinachi in my arms, I realized that my mother’s day list is not about what I want for that day but what I have learned on my Journey to motherhood.

I have 3 adorable kids, 2 boys and a girl that is so mischievous that sometimes I wonder what goes on in her head. Everyone of them is different yet they were born to the same parents. I can’t count the so many antics they have been through and perhaps much more to come. But one thing I will always cherish is the time I spend with them.

So in going through this Journey, here are 6 things I have learned on my Journey to Motherhood

You will always hold the Care of your Child foremost than anything: When you become a mother, it dawns on you that these precious kids depend on your for everything they will require to become functioning adults in life. You will want to do your best for them and no matter who quits on them you won’t because you are the best caregiver that your Baby will require. While others may help out once in a while, it’s you that understands them the best. I was going to travel last November, someone suggested that since I was pregnant, I should drop off my two older kids with my younger sister who was living in London. My Kids sister is the best mother you can ever think of, I see her as a superwoman,  how else can you be holding a baby in your arms and still manage to undertake a training that was hectic in other to change your career. Much as I know she will do her very best to take care of them. I still felt that she will not understand how to minister to their needs like I would. So I had no option but to take them along on my Journey. The key thing there is that no one will care for your child like you would.

Your Time is not your own: When you were single, there were days that you planned to have your Me time for yourself. Perhaps you didn’t pick phone calls that day or maybe you weren’t entertaining visitors, you just want to spend your Me time perhaps lounging at the beach. Not anymore when you become a mother, your time is not yours to spend. Yes, you may plan to have your me time, but at the cry of your lovely baby, you will suddenly abandon your choice me time to go attend to him. I don’t know how many dinners have been botched because baby became fussy or the Nanny called to say the baby is running a temperature.

All Night Sleep is a Mirage: If there is anything a mom longs for, it’s a time to sleep all night without someone waking you up in the middle of the night for one thing or the other. My daughter who is my middle kid was breastfed almost exclusively. Wao she loved to nurse. It was a battle to wean her off my breast. Even at that when she wants to sleep, you will find her hand wandering down to my breast just so she can sleep. After I weaned her at 14 months, I introduced a milk bottle for her night feedings so she wouldn’t miss the nightly nursing so much. My bad, she was still clinging to that night feeding way after I have had the third baby. My third baby will be nursing, my second Child will get up at 2 am to request her own bottle. My nights with the third baby were really tough. I was handling 3 kids that were between the ages of 0- 4years.  But then, it is the greatest thing that can happen to me, because I know when I prayed hard to hold my own baby.

Your body will not be the same again: Just some few days ago, I saw a picture I took 7 years ago, thanks to Facebook, you get to see memories that you have even forgotten about. So I saw this before I ever conceived picture, and  I was like I wish I could get to being like that again.  I have been battling to lose weight after each baby, but after two Lost pregnancies and 3 kids later, my body is not the same. The scars of birthing a child will always be there. The Tiger marks will always be there, the Breasts won’t have that bounce anymore and more importantly, I will struggle with the pregnancy pouch produced my expanding and compressing my skin every time I conceive and put to bed.



I am not complaining about these things,  I wear them as my badge of honor. A person who wins a prize always has something to show for it. So my prize tags are the pouch that I struggle to hold down with a Leonisa Postpartum Shapewear, the firm bra from Leonisa and most importantly, the constant use of skincare products to keep my skin firm and supple. I am a proud mama of 3 and won’t give it up for anything.



Your pay will be in Tiny Hugs and Loves given by your kids:   There is a constant debate on how much a stay at home mom should earn for staying at home and raising her kids, I understand the monetary aspect. Stay at home moms do a very tough work from calming recalcitrant kids to being pooped on or burped on or even urinated upon, to feeding hungry bellies and soothing a sick child. There is no compensation that can satiate what a mother does for her children. That’s why I say that while the monetary aspect is good, a more priceless payment is the tiny hugs and loves given to you by the ones who love you best, your children. You can’t replace the Love in your heart when you receive that love from them. That is what makes you feel compensated at the end of the day. Love never fails.

God will always give you the grace to be the best Mother you can Be: 

When you become a mother, you want to make the best decisions for your children, but because we are not perfect, we may sometimes make decisions that even though they were in good faith may turn out to be a disaster. This is where we need Gods help through the Holy Spirit our game changer to make such decision. God created our kids and knows what they were designed for, he will guide our decision so that we can help them enter into their perfect calling. He will give us the grace to be the best mother we can be to our children.

I know there are so many things I want for my Mothers day gift pack, but I do realize that the greatest gift of all has already been given to me. The gift of Motherhood and nothing can surpass that gift.

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P.s: This Post was recreated after I lost the initial one to hackers on Mothers day. Hope you enjoyed it.

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7 must have plugins for a newbie Blogger.

7 Must have Plugins for a Newbie Blogger

Plugins are essential for the smooth running of a blog. One person likened Plugins to the plumbing’s you need in a house to enable it to have some functionalities that make it better to use.

Officially according to Wikipedia a Plugin is defined as software that adds extra features to an existing computer program thereby enabling customization of that program. For example, when you add a social warfare plugin, you can enable your social media buttons on your page in other for people to share your content.

As a new Blogger, that is just starting out, there are various terms that may seem new to you, one of them is Plugins, when you start out you may wonder if you need them or not, but as you get along the blogging journey you tend to discover that they are a necessity especially if you are not Techie and you don’t want to outsource any part of your blog build up due to lack of funds.

If you are like me, with little funds to spare and you get to realize that you are going to be working daily at this Blog, It is better to learn the necessary things that are required to enable you to run the blog efficiently, hence my adventure into the use of Plugins.

Plugins are like lifesavers, especially if you have been trying to get something fixed and you have wondered how it is done, only to realize that a plugin could easily do it for you without much stress. For example, when I wanted to verify my Pinterest site, I tried uploading my HTML tag but I couldn’t do it. But once I used my Yoast SEO social, it was done instantly. I was so happy the day it happened that I went about smiling all day.

 

Having learned a few things since I started my Blog in March, here are some Plugins that I know you can’t do without.

Akismet: Akismet is a plugin that enables you to protect your Blog from spam attacks, it’s the first thing you must have before you ever launch your Blog. You don’t want to start battling with Spam attacks from day 1, they can mess up your Blog posts especially from the comments section.  Before you can install Akismet, you have to get what they call an API key, consider your API key like a house key which you need to unlock the door to your house. Your API key is gotten after you have registered with the provider of the Plugin. it’s after you key in your API key that Akismet can start working. If you are using the JVzoo Host, you will find that the provider of the WordPress site already comes with the Akismet already pre -installed, you just have to network activate to get it running. To sign up with my hosting company click Here: Sign up now for hosting

The good thing about it is that its free and open source, you don’t have to pay a dime once you have it installed on your system. You only need your updates once in a while and it’s still free.

Google XML sitemap: Wow, this is the second must have Plugin, it helps you index your Blog with most search engines, like Google, Bing, and webmasters. When I started my Blog, I didn’t know much about this plugin, I thought that once you enable the settings through your admin section that authorizes search engines to index your website that was it. But I soon found out I was wrong because when I typed my web address, my blog never came up. So I read up some more on it and I found that I needed to submit my website to various search engines for indexing, I tried to but the process was a bit complicated for me until I discovered this plugin, Google XML sitemap that helps one to do it without all the stress of trying to do it one by one.

To install google XML sitemap follow these directions

  • Go to your Admin section
  • Click on Network activate, then go down to appearance and click on Plugin then click on Add new.
  •  Now go ahead and search for Google XML sitemap and click on Network activate, then you can go ahead and install it on your Blog.

 Key things I look out for when installing a plugin

1- Number of installations it has had

2 The ratings

3 When last the version was updated.

4Compatibility: whether it is compatible with the version of WordPress that I use.

All these factors help me to know how well a plugin will perform. This is because if it has 100’s of thousands of active installs or even in millions, it means, many people trust it and are consistently using it. If its ratings are high, chances are also that it is good. If the plugin is constantly updated, that means it’s much less vulnerable to hackers. Old un Updated Plugins are often used by hackers as a backdoor to your website, beware of using them.

Google Analytics: Google Analytics enables you to track your page views and your sources of traffic. This is a very important data if you want to grow as a Blogger. It’s a popular saying that what you can’t measure you can’t improve on. So it’s important that you have your Google analytics installed from day 1 of your blogging activity as this will allow you see your data trends with time. It will also tell you which countries that most of your traffic is coming from. Under its reports, it will also give you the metrics of where your traffic is coming from and where they terminate. It will give you an idea of how your posts are performing. From your GA, you will get to know which of your Posts high traffic attractors are. In fact running a blog without GA is liking flying a Plane without radar.

Yoast SEO: My encounter with Yoast SEO helped me shape my writing skills to better create a rankable content. Yoast SEO has the analysis that tells you if the content you are going to post has a good SEO and also if the readability is good. These two points are important if you want your Posts to come up during a search. The feedback it gives you allows you put down a better write up. It has some basic features and also a Paid feature. You can start with a basic feature and then upgrade to a paid one as you scale. It’s a very good Plugin because it helps analyze your content before it goes live. It has a very good support network and also offers some training on how to use it.

Loginizer: Loginizer is a security plugin you may want to try, because I was a new blogger, I didn’t take my security so serious until I started having attacks from hackers who were trying to hack my blog I wrote to my host company JVzoo who quickly offered me support and advised on what plugins to use to protect myself from spammers and hackers. I picked up this plugin because I didn’t want to go the route of rewriting my admin login configure. It helped to protect my Blog from brutal force attacks.

It works by blocking IPs that exceed a maximum number of trials to log in, a frequent feature of hackers. It also enables you to blacklist frequent IPS that are always trying to Log into your blog. Loginizer is easy to use because it’s just plugged and play. It has a paid feature though.

Social warfare; When I started my blog, I have often wondered how to get my share buttons on my page to enable people to share my content. When your content gets shared, it enables more traffic to come to your page. I was participating in a Facebook group page when someone got my attention by suggesting this wonderful plugin. Social warfare enables you to activate your social media buttons hence enabling anyone that comes to your page to share your content. Since I installed it, I have been able to keep track of my contents shares on social media, it has helped me know what has worked for my posts and what does not work. That way I am consistently working to improve myself.  While I am not yet perfect yet, it’s a journey I am enjoying. To get this Plugin, click Here Social warfare

 

Ebook store: If you are like most bloggers who want to monetize their blog immediately through the sale of their own EBook, then you should try installing eBook store, it’s a plugin that is integrated with woo commerce to enable you to add a cart to your blog site.  It is a paid plugin meaning that if you want to be able to synchronize it with your PayPal account, then you have to pay their monthly subscription in other to have the features that help you receive payment. EBook store works perfectly well if you are the store owner. Another feature that may work for you if you are selling stuff from your Blog is the Shopify app. it enables you to set up your eCommerce store in a bit.

Shopify is a complete ecommerce solution that allows you to set up an online store to sell your goods. It lets you organize your products customize your storefront accept credit card payments, track and respond to orders all with a few clicks of the mouse.

If you found this post helpful, that means you are a newbie blogger, congratulations on starting out on this wonderful journey read this 7 Helpful tips for the home business owner to help get your self-prepared for the journey ahead.

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God Will Outlast Your Storm

God will outlast your Storm
God is in Control, Stay Calm

Hello dear, It’s Friday the last working day, well for some people. Today I will be talking about God in the midst of your storm. Storms comes to everyone in this life. So long as you are in this thing called Life, you will sure go through some Storm in your life.

As our lives are different so is our storm, we face different issues in Life everyone to his own, and yet for some people it seems like theirs is the worst, they can’t seem to find a way to handle Life. But we know as Christians that we are not called to handle Life alone, that’s why Jesus said in Matthew 11: 28-29 to bring all your Burdens and Cast it on him.

28 Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.

Remember when the ship in which the disciples of Jesus were in was about to sink, Jesus was asleep because he knew who he was and that the storms wouldn’t out beat him. The Disciples were afraid like we are wont to be now, perhaps you have been diagnosed with an incurable disease or maybe you have a burden of debt that is crushing you right now and you are wondering where is Jesus in my storm, why can’t I hear him, remember what he asked the disciples why is it that you have no Faith?( Mark 4:40), how can he be in the boat with you and it will sink except that you have no faith in him and you have forgotten to call on him. Even if your heart is failing because of the problems before you rise up now as you read this Blog Post and say this aloud.

Jesus is with me in my Boat, I will not sink, I will not die of that incurable disease, my Bills will be paid, My debt will be paid off, I will not lose my property, I will not Loose my Child, I will not be put down by circumstances, I will arise and come out of it because he says  Fear Not, I will Help you in Isaiah 41:13.

You know that the Lord is so wonderful, during my Morning devotion this morning, I was reading from a Devotional by Derek Prince(Declaring God’s Word, A 365 Day Devotional) on the Fact that God has given us the promise of the father through the holy spirit as it was written in Gal 3: 14. He went on to speak of the fact that the Holy Spirit is the promise of the father and how that through Abraham we had become partakers of that Blessing upon our Lives. I was finding it difficult to fit in what I was going through at the moment with Abraham’s Blessing, I mean how could I be Blessed when I am struggling so much. So I said to myself, let me get another devotional and see what God has to say there, in fact in mind I said I will get a more serious devotional ( LOL)

So I went and Picked up Papa Hagin’s Faith food and when I opened the book to today’s date, guess what I saw, Proverbs 13:22, that a good man leaves an inheritance for his children’s children. It just hit me that today God was affirming to me that he has left an inheritance for me via his word. The Abraham’s Blessings which I was struggling to believe that it’s mine is the inheritance which God has left for me.

I do not have to struggle with Life’s problems because I have a good  God and he has left me an inheritance which I am to appropriate as mine. In fact as you read into that devotional he talks about Jesus saying that he can teach us make money through the direction of the Holy Spirit, If only we will not be covetous.

For me that  word made meaning to me and had great impact in my life today, I can go about my business asking the Holy Spirit to help me be the best he created me to be. Alleluia. I was so excited by this word that i began to declare God’s blessings over my life and over the work of my hands. I ran to share this scripture with my husband. I read psalm 128 to top it off and I was in a very good mood, set for the day. Wao, Glory to God.

God willed the whole world to Abraham and through him we became partakers of the blessings of Abraham.

So here is the truth, when the storm is billowing, stop looking at the storm and start looking at  Jesus the author and finisher of your faith.( Heb 12:2). He is the one the disciples called on to calm the sea,

Begin to proclaim that the storm will not overcome you, open your Mouth and begin to denounce what the enemy is doing in your Life and you will see the storm go away.

Refuse to back down to the Devil and know that you have a divine partner the Holy Spirit whom God gave to you in other to help you through the storms of Life. He will quieten every storm and make all things beautiful in his time.

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7 things to expect when working from Home.

7 things to expect when working from home
Factors to consider before you start working from home

The thrill that comes from earning your first dollar while working from home cannot be compared to anything else, especially when it’s your first time of trying out an online business. it validates what you have been saying to yourself from the beginning that it can work. Before you rush off to make that move of working from home, consider the 7 things to expect when working from home.

There are a lot of factors that come into play when working from home, but some of the things that happen, you may not initially expect. There are so many myths surrounding working from home that you may have fallen for the idea that it’s super easy to work from home. While there are many reason and benefits to working from home there are some things you need to know about in advance that you should expect.

    • You’ll Learn Time Management – If you’re serious about making it as a work at home mom you’ll discover a new understanding of time, calendars, and schedules. It may seem unromantic but the more you schedule and calendar your days the more you’ll get done. To get your scheduling easily sorted out Here is a free software link for online calendars
    • You’ll Get Lonely– It may seem crazy since you never liked working with people anyway (maybe) but you’ll get lonely working from home. Luckily that’s easily remedied by joining groups on Facebook or LinkedIn of other women and moms who work from home.
    • You’ll have Distractions You Never Considered – Pets, children, neighbors, TV and even Facebook can be distractions to your success at working from home. What’s more, you’ll have to be self-motivated to avoid these distractions when you need to earn money.
    • Your Spouse & Friends Won’t Understand– Many people don’t understand working from home and think it has to be a scam, a hobby or worse a lie you tell yourself every day. But, remember that you know the truth and you can combat their doubts by earning enough money to make a difference in your life. Here is a post I wrote to help you soldier on when others don’t believe in you.
    • You May Let Yourself Go– When you have to go to work each day you’re forced to fix your hair, put on some makeup, and get dressed. But, when you work for yourself from home you don’t have to do any of that and you may end up gaining some weight or looking rundown. You can, of course, combat that by at least putting on some leggings after a shower each morning.


  • Funds Will Be Tight– When you first start your work at home business you may be working 40 hours a week without seeing any monetary results. In fact, you may be spending money instead of earning money at first. Before you quit your day job ensure that you can handle the expenses until you start earning a living.
  • Sometimes You’ll Get Discouraged– Working from home can be hard when you’re not bringing in enough money at first. Even when you are, sometimes it’ll get discouraging and you’ll want to give up. But, if you create a plan and follow the plan after having done your due diligence you’ll be successful. Here is a   Post  you can read to remind you of the reason you started out in the first place.

Finally, you’ll soon learn that you have to be completely self-motivated. If you are seeking for a way to transition right now to a work from home mom, dont worry, I have your back, just read my Free Ebook and you will be ready to go.

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Elizabeth.

How to turn your Life experience into a Money printing small business

For stay at home moms who want to support their lifestyle
A post on how to turn your unique life experience into a money-making venture while helping others.

This week starts on a good note, a week in which we celebrate the small business owners. It’s the National Small Business week starting from April 30th to May 6th. The celebration was instituted since 1963 to celebrate the contributions of small business owners to the growth of the American economy. You can read more about their activities here.

 

Its special to me because I promote and encourage women who are stay at home moms to start small businesses from their homes, it empowers one to live life at its best and according to your own terms.

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Small business owners create 2 out of every 3 jobs in America today and you can be part of the percentage that is making an impact on the economy. According to a SBA advocacy report, 52% of small businesses in America are home-based businesses, while 78.5% of small businesses are nonemployer businesses( Businesses which have no employees), these are businesses run solely by the owners. This week celebrates the impact of such business on the economy, a testimony to the fact that small business are consistently growing.

The good thing about this trend is that women-owned businesses are growing at a rate 5 times better than other businesses, this is according to a research on the State of women owned businesses . So if you are a stay at home mom or even a working mom who has been thinking about how to ditch your 9-5 to start a home-based business that will meet your needs, there are reports that support the fact that women-owned businesses are on the rise and keeps getting better and better.

For some moms wondering where to start from, know that one of the businesses you can easily start, is an online business which is based on your various experiences in life. According to an article written by Melanie Deziel for INC , it posits that in these days of the information age, creating information products around the subjects you are passionate about is one of the ways you can turn your passion into a 6 figure business.

This is possible because with the internet connecting billions of people on the face of the earth, there are billions of searches for information on how to do things. People are hungry for information and are willing to pay a good amount of money to learn what will move them to the next level. As long as you have skills which you can impart to other people, then you are in business.

Creating a course on how your experience can help some people solve their problems is one of the easiest ways you can make a living from the internet. The good thing about this type of business is the fact that it costs as little as less than a 100 dollars to start.

For example, suppose you already have an idea about helping new moms take care of their little babies or even first-time moms from pregnancy to weaning a child, here is a rundown on what you need to create an online course based on that topic.

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What you need to create an online course.

Discover your Niche: Find out what pain points people your niche have a write out solutions to their pain points. This will form the building block of your online course.

Build a followership around this Niche via social media channels like Facebook, Google+, Twitter, Instagram etc.

Start a Blog: Where you can write articles about how your knowledge can help your potential niche. You can get a domain name and a hosting option with a little amount, here is a link Sign up now for hosting

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Build an email list: Get to the inbox of your followers by offering a free training or eBook to them in exchange for their emails.

Sell your courses: Market your courses to your subscribers or offer online coaching classes to them.

Cost breakdown for creating an online course.

Domain Name + Hosting: 8 dollars per month using Jvzoo Host, Sign up now for hosting .

Email Marketing software: 9 dollars per month Using SENDLANE email marketing software.

 Facebook advert cost: Perhaps 35 dollars per month (targeted advertising by Facebook)

Cost of Building you course: 0 dollars, you already have the experience and you can find out how to create the course from google search

 Delivery cost: You can deliver your course via webinars, YOUTUBE or email correspondence course or you can use an automated system like Teachable

for a minimum of 39 dollars per month.

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Cost of the setup of payment channel: 0 dollars you can set up a payment channel for your courses for free your payment channel can be PAYONEER, where you receive payment for your courses without much stress.

Total costs of starting this business: 52 dollars + or -39 dollars if you choose to use Teachable

The extra 48 dollars can be plugged into Google ads if you choose not to use Teachable and choose instead to use the workflow method in the email marketing software of SENDLANE

The Blog issue is easy to start if you are using Jvzoo host, their customer service support is excellent. Their packaging makes it easy for you to get your Blog up and running within the shortest time possible. Sign up now for hosting

With these simple and easy steps, you are set to go, to encourage you more Read how this 26 year old started a seven figure online business from her Van

You can also read how this South African Woman turned a consistently nagging problem into a solution she is selling, read it here

To know how to go about transitioning into  a mompreneur, Get My Free Ebook

You can turn your life experiences into a money printing business, give it a go. Don’t let this small business week be a waste, tap into it and get moving.

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